Just applied for child maintenance from ex

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I left the relationship 5 years ago but have been too scared of his reaction to apply. He has been financially controlling and so I was scared of his reaction especially as we go and visit his area regularly. He has over 20 k of savings. Will he be mad? Does it matter? With the cost of living going up I really need the extra money. Its a shame they won't backdate it.

Yeah he'll probably be mad, instead of feeling thankful that you've allowed him to get away with 5 years not paying to support the child he created. Are you afraid of him? What specifically are your worries?

Does he see the children? How do you know he has 20k in savings after 20 years?

@justnow2022 what do you mean 20 year? I asked him how muxh savings he had and he told me.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation yes you're right he's got away with no nursery fees or anything! I don't have specific worries, just I know how much money means to him and how tight he is!

It doesn't matter if he is mad or not. You don't need to get involved. CMS will contact him on your behalf and arrange payments. If he has a regular job, he will have to pay mad or not.

Do not worry about his reaction. By law he should be paying for his children and he's a disgraceful father to not even be offering to pay for them. My ex always paid maintenance but he underpaid me for years but, like you, I let it slide so as not to cause friction. I soon came to my senses when he was awful to me one time so I went straight to the CMS and now he has to pay me the full amount.

He may be mad. But you should be madder he hasn't been supporting his dc.

Thanks for these replies. @justnow2022 he is an agency worker so no permanent contract but he is paid £200 per day and he works full time ! I'm sure he will use the non contract nature of his post to try and get out of it!

You don't know if he hasn't offered.

Having no contact won't prevent him from being billed for child maintenance payments.

They will use his P60 (earnings and tax summary) from last year. Unless he will stop working altogether, he will have to pay. At 200 per day, it is an important amount of around 500 a month.

They do stay at his some weeks randomly in the holiday so I don't think it will be as much as £500 but will be something.

Whether or not he is mad is totally irrelevant. He has a legal and moral duty to support his children and he's got away with it for 5 years. You're the one who should be mad.

Does money matter more to him than his children?

Does money matter more to him than his children?

He's what you might call an extreme cheapskate.