Husband acting crazy

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Hi, my h and I are in a bad place now and we are taking time apart, he has the kids tonight and I was working a long day and just in home , when he turned up shouting that my fly in my work trousers were down and who am I hiding here and he grabbed my phone and looked through every message, and looked in every room. I knew he wouldn't find anything as I am definitely not texting or seeing anyone else. He scared me , I wasn't doing anything at all. I wouldn't be surprised if he will drive by again later. He doesn't trust me, he doesn't understand how a marriage can just break down, but this is giving me more of a reason to leave , I told him this is not OK, thoughts please ? Is there any getting past this

Thank you, I didn't think that he would but unless that's it, it wasn't good anyway that's for sure , I don't know where to go from here

God he sounds awful and scary. Have you spoken to a solicitor? Have you got support nearby?

It sounds like he can’t work work out why the marriage is broken, so has locked onto the idea that it must be that you’ve got someone else.

my husband and I are separating, and he keeps saying it’s not what he wants and I’m the one who wants the separation and is causing all the grief. I tried explaining that is was his behaviour over the years that led to this.

The problem is my husband thinks he’s perfect (he’s not), he can accept no blame. So my behaviour is inexplicable. It’s a typical man’s entitlement. If I sound harsh, I’m sorry. I just have to get away from him so I can be me.

Thank you, no havnt spoken to a solicitor yet as we were really only living apart to try to help us get together if that makes sense. But tonight scared me , his eyes were wild, wasn't OK. Thank you yes I think he is thinking I must be with someone else, as doesn't see why we are having problems, yes he thinks he is perfect husband but he's not , he was always a little controlling, so now he is losing his grip and getting paranoid. I think tonight cemented my worries, and separation is for the best .

Log everything he does. Keep any abusive messages. Get legal advice and make the separation permanent. Inform family and or friends so they can be with you if necessary.

Where are/were the children? Was there someone else looking after them or were they left alone?

The kids were safe, he is living with his sister for moment, he is a very good father, thanks all for replies

Lots of men just cannot wrap their head around the fact that their wife/partner has just had enough. They have to assume there is someone else because somehow, that makes it easier to understand. My ex did this. Accused me of cheating because I wanted to end things. I suppose that is easier to accept than someone just not wanting you anymore.