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Emotional abuse

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Funkychicken54321 · 05/06/2022 17:46

Right, so I have been single coming up to a year. My marriage broke down during lockdown when I started to realise the extent of the emotional abuse coming my way.

This absolutely isn't for sympathy but over this last year I have realised how bad it was and I feel quite sad about just how much I put up with. I feel so much better now for myself and our kids.

I am generally a strong person and have a good group if friends around me but felt like a smaller version of myself if that makes sense. I was regularly belittled and made to feel worthless and little snide comments and mickey takes out of me. If I didn't like something, he would do it more because he found it funny!

To our friends they saw us as a happy couple and I haven't spoken in RL why I have left, it's not there business and I have children to consider, what would I achieve?

I want anyone going though this too, your not alone! It does absolutely get better if you feel you can't cope and need to leave... you can do it.

I wanted to get it out there that if you are going through this too, your not alone either. Thanks for reading my rambled message.

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sadsusie · 05/06/2022 18:44

Thank you for this. I’m in the process of divorcing my emotionally abusive husband and it’s so hard.

Funkychicken54321 · 05/06/2022 19:34

I have good and bad days but definitely better than I was. I am also going through divorce, he has delayed this aswell. It is very hard, stay strong @sadsusie

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anotherdisaster · 05/06/2022 23:07

Good on you OP for getting out. I was in a similar situation and can't belief the relief I felt when I realised how much better off I was.

Funkychicken54321 · 06/06/2022 11:46

@anotherdisaster thank you! The relief is immense! I look at the situation so differently now I'm gone

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SophSoSo · 06/06/2022 12:10

I’m six weeks out of an abusive relationship that lasted three years, it’s been a bad week this week and I miss him. I hope I get to where you are soon, well done for leaving x

Funkychicken54321 · 06/06/2022 13:12

@SophSoSo you will. It does take time

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