It was my birthday a few weeks ago. My partner of 7 years made zero effort. A card with nothing but to "sunshine" from DP. No plans. No present. No birthday cake. Mother's Day was the same (DC is a toddler so not his fault).
I have always made an effort for his birthday and this year got him a present over £500 (not that it's about the money), invited his family round, made him a cake, made plans to have a babysitter so we could go out for dinner, made sure everyone knew what he actually wanted for his birthday so he didn't end up with a load of old tat.
I told him a few days later I was upset he hadn't done anything when I always try to make such an effort for him. He said he hadn't had any time.. I said if you wanted to make an effort you would. He said it's because he doesn't feel very close to me at the moment, I don't make him feel appreciated apparently even though I always thank him for working so hard for us. Obviously I don't thank him everyday for what he does around the house but he doesn't thank me either and I wouldn't expect this as it is just life as an adult. I make him dinner every evening. Do the food shop. Tidy up around him. Ask him about his day. Support him when he's having a hard time at work. He gets plenty of time to do his hobbies. I sort out all the finances, and day to day life. I really don't know what else I could do tbh.
So a week has gone by he's still not made any effort despite knowing I'm upset and now I'm feeling more and more distant from him. Not sure how to get things back on track if I have told him how I feel and he's done nothing. I don't want to tell him how I feel again.
Now Father's Day is around the corner and it makes me think why do I bother. But I know if I don't that won't solve anything.