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Ex ruined my life but he’s enjoying his

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Threebutterflies · 04/06/2022 11:23

I just feel so angry and frustrated. This man made my life absolutely miserable. 3 days after I gave birth to our baby he text me to say he has a girlfriend who’s he’s been with for years so was basically cheating on her with me the whole time.

Idiot me got back with him as was desperate not to be a single mum again. He was horrible to me the whole time calling me names and putting me down. Was a rubbish dad to our baby . I had 2 abortions when I was with him that has left me with bad mental health problems . He made it clear both times he didn’t want the babies and I’d be doing it all alone.

I later found out he was so against me having the babies as he was still with that same women and she would have found out he was still sleeping with me if I’d of had the babies. I feel so so stupid . I really thought me and him were together and now I know he was with her all along and I was just a bit on the side .

I’ve been left with so many mental health problems and he’s off living his life being happy. They go on holidays, share a car etc . I’ve been suicidal and still get suicidal because of how he treated me and the abortions. I’m on 150mg anti depressants daily and have self harmed.

It just seems so unfair ? He came into my life , ruined it now he’s off enjoying his ?

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Threebutterflies · 05/06/2022 18:55

JimmyShoo · 04/06/2022 14:09

How do you know he’s happy? Have you remained in contact or do you see what he posts on social media? Whatever the answer, either cut contact or remove yourself as a friend on his profiles.

You are torturing yourself with what you believe his life is like. You actually have no clue if he’s happy or not, you’re just buying into whatever he says/posts when you already know he’s a liar.

Focus on yourself. What’s done is in the past. You can’t change it but you can move forwards and make sure he doesn’t become part of your future.

No I don’t think he or his girlfriend are on social media. The last time she was on Facebook I messaged her and she deleted her profile. I know that they went on holiday together as he admitted it in the end. He drove past my house in her car so that’s how I found out they were back together. I don’t know it just seems so unfair . I’m probably just feeling abit sorry for myself . Need a big hug I think ☹️

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