Are you friends with your exes?

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I'm just feeling nosy!

Ex 1: We lived together in the 90s. Really good relationship until we moved in together, when it became evident that he thought all the housework was my job because I was the girl. We argued and he refused to get it, so I gave him £1000 and asked him to move out. Completely lost respect for him which was a shame. We didn't stay in touch.

Ex 2: Read Napoleon Hill instead of job-hunting. Disaster.

Ex 3: Many happy years. We're very good friends still. I wish we could've made it work. No hard feelings.

Ex 1: yes, but only because I met his now wife and became friends with her before realising who her partner was!

Ex 2: absolutely not.

Ex 3: yes, but only because we got back together and we’re now married!

No to the majority but only because i now live miles away, plus 2 of the most significant have died, including DS1s dad.

Yes to DS2s dad, but it took many years to pass in order to be friends

My last partner of 12 years was emotionally abusive, although he lives nearby, nothing on this earth would make me acknowledge he existed.

Not friends with any exes and don’t want to be

My ex and I separated & divorced amicably eight years ago, but I only found out afterwards that he'd been seeing another woman whjile we were separated - he denied being in a relationship with anyone else and was actually living with her.
Until I found this out , he and I were on friendly polite speaking terms but now that I realise I could have divorced him on the grounds of adultery instead of the two years' separation I've cut contact with him.

I know his present home address and his e-mail address, but I've long since forgotten his phone number. He's not part of my life any more so I see no need to be in contact with him.

One of my exes is my best friend, I know he totally loves me unconditionally, probably more so than dh to be honest. Dh also loves my pal and has a separate close friendship with him.

The age range would change this nice thing though as mn are mostly "he's an abusive manipulative cunt" he's absolutely not.

Yeah a couple

Not friends with exh but he might think we are. I'm friendly for my child's sake but exh was abusive.

Been sort of friends with exbf for last eighteen months but it's all unravelled. We were in a will they / won't they get back together situation and I realize now he was kind of stringing me along. Not sure we can be friends. I still love him and it hurts.

Other exes I wished well but didn't stay in touch.

I'm fb friends with one, friend adjacent with dcs dad, wouldn't piss on one if he was on fire and am genuine friends with one.

Yes, until he sadly died a few years ago. I still miss him a lot.

Not with any ex-husbands, no, but I am very good friends with 3 ex-fiancés (🤣 I had a few...🤷‍♀️ what can I say? I was young!) also still good friends with several ex boyfriends. I'm now 58 and very single...I suspect I'm a better 'friend' than girlfriend or wife 🤦‍♀️😆

The last 10 years I've chatted via text and whatsapp, almost daily, with my ex. He's a very good friend. Current partner gets on with him too, he lives a few hundred miles away so he's not stepping on anybodies toes.

From even further baxk before that, all the way back to my teens, I have an ex who I still speak to occasionally. I do think perhaps he still has feelings or rather imagines something more or romanticised what we had in a way. Dp is less keen on him!

I have a few as Facebook friends but don't actively see them, if I came across them again I'd chat and be friendly as I don't bear grudges - except maybe a few weird ones who I never got as far as a relationship with once I realised they were a bit strange - I'd steer clear of them, they got blocked.

No
i just don’t feel the need, no ill feelings, happy to be civil if we bump into each other but just feels a bit pointless.

Do you mind me asking, the one you talk daily to... How did it end between you ? Didn't daily chats make it difficult for you both to move on...?

I'm only friends with one ex. We were both the first dates the other had after separation from our spouses. We are very good friends and text or chat most weeks. Both have similar jobs and lots of other things in common. We both still do really care very deeply for each other though.

I don't live anywhere near any exes, so we'd have to actively maintain contact which we don't. A couple are active on social media so I'll occasionally like a photo or something.

Some of them I'm quite happy to not speak to again!

Yes, stayed friends with first proper boyfriend, friends with ex husband, not exactly friends with next partner because he doesn't live locally, but if ever saw each other again we'd say hi. Absolutely not friends with most recent ex as he was an abusive arsehole, thinking of him makes my skin crawl.

If myself and current dp broke up (hope not!!) we'd stay friends, if he wanted to of course.

Guess it depends on how the relationship was 😜

Friends with a few on fb. Not really seen them in a while (and one is dead now) but if I did I would talk to them.

I have some mutual friends with one of them and last time we were both there we talked to each other most of the day/evening. Was nice to see him.

No no and definitely no.
2 cheats and stalker.

Not friends no. I've a couple who live locally and if I see them , I say hello, ask about the family but thats it.

Only one from school. On a related note recently found out that old family friends i remember from childhood were my mum's exes! ha

I'm on friendly terms with two but tbh we rarely catch up now.

I have a shared interest with one so we have a chat every few months if one of us sees something the other would be interested in. We live a long way apart now but I'd happily meet him for a coffee/ drink if we were close by.

One is one of my absolute closest friends, in fact he's like a caring big brother. Big cultural and personality differences so we didn't make a happy couple (loved each other but not a good fit, lots of rows) but we do make great friends. He's a gem. We wouldn't want each other back though!

The rest, we have gone our separate ways.

First came out shortly after we split up. We get on well and I’ve stayed with him and his husband.

The second was a nasty piece of work and eventually ghosted me. Haven’t seen him in 20 years, although mutual friends occasionally mention him. Not sure I’d recognise him after so long!

The third was a dear friend before we got together. After we split up we kept apart for a while, and then had a drink after escaping from an awful party. It was really lovely and reminded me why we had got on so well. We agreed it would be nice to meet again, but then he said he wouldn’t tell his girlfriend because she would be uncomfortable. That made me uncomfortable - there was no chance of anything happening and I didn’t want to cause problems- so we never went for a drink again. I’d really like to catch up, but I don’t think we have enough mutual friends to make it likely.

With my ex husband yes, as we're amicable and have a DC.

With my most recent ex no, because he's a lying, cheating cunt.

Absolutely not.
Ex1: together three years, broke up when I was 18, so young but serious relationship. He took the breakup very, very hard and we never spoke again after I broke up with him.
Ex2: together three years, lived together, broke up when I was 22. Hideous relationship really, he was a gorgeous, charming rugby-playing delight when he wanted to be, but had a hideous temper, was very quick with his fists and I’ve never met anyone so jealous and possessive. I left while he was on a work trip and, altho he used to message me on and off for a while, once I started seeing my now-husband, he lost his shit and that ended the messages.
There’s quite a few casual ‘exes’ who I am still on good terms with. Not enough to go out of my way to speak to but if we bump into each other, it’s pleasant.