Moved back near DM last year as we've always been close and although it's fairly minor stuff, I'm really starting to resent her low level rudeness.
She went on a 2 week break and assumed that I'd take care of her pets, but I realised she never actually asked.
She's just retrained to be her own boss, which is great. But seemingly expects me to do the lion's share of her business set up, she often leaves me to it whilst she'll start faffing around the house. I've been round 3 times this week alone for hours on end, on top of my full time job. She also got really short with me the other day, raising her voice when I asked her to explain what she needed me to do.
The final straw was baby names, I'm expecting and she asked about ones we liked. We have one in mind but not totally decided, it also has sentimental meaning due to a relative DH lost. DM didn't like it, screwed her face up, shook her head and said "GOD NO!" When I hadn't even asked her opinion.
I was pretty annoyed at the time but didn't say anything, then she sent me some names today and I called her out on it. Explaining that her comments upset me last time, so I'm not sure I want to discuss names with her. Instead of apologising I got "Jeez hormones!" And she's now ignoring me.
I really love DM but surely it's pretty basic to apologise when someone you care about explains that you've upset them? I find it really immature that she clearly can't handle being called out on her poor behaviour.
Maybe I am being overly sensitive? After years of having my dad over step the mark to the point that I'm NC, I really feel like it's important to be able to set boundaries with DM.