What to do..

[Wanderer122]

I'm 39 weeks pregnant with DC2. DC1 has just turned 2. DC1 number sees me crying sometimes as I get upset by DH's hurtful comments. As far as I can determine he is unkind when he has not been monitoring his diabetes. He is type 1 and definitely has mood swings when he neglects monitoring.
Im dreading the thought of labour as had a traumatic time last time and I just feel like going in by myself now as I am so upset at him, which in itself upsets me. I just wish he was supportive and looked after his sugars. I had to twist his arm last pregnancy just to get him to watch videos on breathing techniques for labour as we didn't have any antenatal classes due to covid.

It upsets me that my child sees me upset.

Not the best time to be making any big decisions, @Wanderer122 . Good luck with the birth.

Is there anyone you can talk to regarding your DH's diabetes mood swings, either a GP or practice nurse, or family?

If someone constantly makes you feel like shit, why do you need to stay stay them just because you know the reason? Also, in choosing not to manage it correctly- he is choosing to treat you like shit. Don't you think you deserve better than that bs?

I actually think it's best to get shot of wankers before you have their kids. Because once that child arrives, you'll be too tired to leave him for several years.

Plus, your current child is still young so I will be much less upheaval on him now than it would be when the older.

Also, it's not fair on him to see his father making his mother cry. You all desrve better.

I'd give him an ultimatum- he gets on top of his mess and never says anything nasty to me again. Or he gets the fuck out. And follow through.