Getting back with an ex?

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Has anyone stayed with a partner or got back with an ex to avoid being a single mum? Years later and I still don’t find it’s got any easier. Starting to regret leaving and wondered if anyone has got back with an ex and it worked out?

You can't resurrect the dead.

Better to be on your own than to be so badly accompanied.

Why did you break up in the first place? I think this matters

Yes and it was just as shit the second time

he broke up with me, he had some mental health issues and that’s why, we argued a lot and it wasn’t working, however a year later he wanted to get back together but I didn’t want to as time had passed and I wanted to be strong and not go back but now I regret that.

Has he addressed those issues? If the only reason you want to get back with him is so you're not a single mother then I'm not sure it would work out though, do you have actual feelings for him?

I truly have nightmares about my ex coming back to me it happens every few months and I wake up in a complete panic.

No way would I ever have back in real life we broke up for a reason
Please op don't get back with your ex unless you really get to know each other again and it is truly what you both want.

If there's one thing I've learned it's that if you chose to walk away in the past - ffs, for the love goodness, TRUST in your past judgement.

Because no one wants to walk away from someone (especially someone they have kids with) until they are sure that it doesn't and can't work anymore.

You were right to leave.

Besides, how would getting back with someone incompatable help you? If anything, that'll just make more, new problems.

How about looking for a new parnter instead?
But only because you'd like to fall in love and find company again. Not for convenience.

It would depend. But my ex who is my DD's father it would be a HELL NO. And sometimes I do wonder what if cause financially it would've been easier but emotionally I know it would've been fraught with bickering, arguing, and eventually hate, resentment, and contempt. Which ended up happening while we were together and I know getting back together it would've happened again cause he was still the same person I broke up with. It wasn't worth it, I rather be a solo mom.

Now if it was a different ex I probably would as the reason why we ended wasn't due to such a huge incompatibility like with my DD's father.

I'm not sure what your work situation is so this is a bit of a wild stab in the dark, but if you're finding it that tough because of balancing work and parenting then a better choice would be reducing work, claiming universal credit, and taking pressure off yourself that way, than getting back with someone you had to break up with where that reason is likely still there?

You don't have to be everything. Your child needs you present is all. We don't need oodles of cash. We just need to not stretch ourselves too thinly.

Even if you use the UC to focus on retraining for something more lucrative over the next few years. I think that's a perfectly reasonable use of taxpayers' money.

But a dysfunctional relationship is not one that would benefit a child. Also the resentment of "having" to be with that person would eat you alive. Not worth it.

No chance of meeting anyone new, I’m with the kids 24/7!