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Friend back in abusive relationship again

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QuiteFranklin · 31/05/2022 23:46

Hello MN
i have a friend who was in an abusive relationship last year. I supported her (with others) to access support & help from multiple organisations as at the time she wanted that. She started to recover.
Recently her behaviour has been quite manic, distracted, almost child-like. We went for lunch yesterday and she told me that she’s back with the abusive ex.
This is surprising and also really sad.
I’m a survivor & I know how hard it is to leave/recover.
The person she’s with is not a good person. They are saying all the right things ‘I’ll get help’ etc
I can see right through them.
Friend has invited me to a social event where this person is going to be there too. What’s the best way to say no? I want to be really clear that I don’t want to be around that person but want to be there for my friend.
She deserves better.
The person she’s back with abused her physicslly, emotionally, financially & she has children.

OP posts:
BiscoffSundae · 01/06/2022 00:32

Just say you don’t want to go? Be prepared to lose her as a friend though 🤷‍♀️

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