Everyone has always got so much nice stuff to say about everyone else but no one ever has a good word to say about me!

[PineapplePrincess1]

As per title, really!

Everyone always seems to have so much nice stuff to say about others, about how amazing they are, how good looking, how nice their house is etc. I am certain no one has anything nice to say about me as no one even seems to listen to a word I say anyway, let alone ask about me.

I've just had to endure an evening at work with everyone saying how amazing the woman who did my job before me was, how they all miss her, how funny she was etc. Right in front of me! She was actually a fucking lazy cow who sat and watched TV shows on her iPad when she should be working and had numerous complaints about her from customers. But no, she apparently was amazing and is so missed!

Just because they liked her doesn't mean they don't like you. If you weren't there, I'm sure they'd notice. It sounds like you have a few confidence issues. If you're doing a good job and you know it, why would you care what anyone said about you?

I once met the person who's job I got when they emigrated. (They came back to visit the workplace).
I spent the first 10 mins telling him how wonderful everyone thought he was and how I thought I would never fill his shoes. He spent the next 10 mins telling me how wonderful my everyone thought I was and how he felt gutted no one missed him because I was so great.

Hope there's a lesson in there for you, and I'm sure lots of people think you're fab!

Do you say nice stuff about others. Might this be a situation where you get back what you send out.

I sometimes say stuff like this about former work colleagues if I’m in a work social situation because I can’t really think of anything else to say ! It’s never especially heartfelt either but at the end of a long working day then going out for a meal it saves me having to think of conversation topics .

Maybe you're a bitch?

Nobody ever says anything nice about me either but I've accepted it's because I tend to be dislikeable.

They're just jealous of you OP that's why they don't say anything nice!

Your honestly is refreshing and actually I would argue in my eyes at least makes you 10x more likeable.

But heck I'm a bitch too so 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don't know about everyone else but I fucking love you!

I think this definitely stems from some confidence and self esteem issues OP.

Obviously it’s nice to receive compliments. Wether it be about your looks, personality, work ethic, anything. But the words and opinions (or lack of) of others don’t define who we are.

Just because you aren’t physically hearing nice stuff being said about you, doesn’t mean it’s not happening. You have no idea what people are saying when you’re not in the room. Could be good or bad.

People who are 100% happy and confident with themselves don’t seek validation from other people.

If you are good at your job I’m sure your colleagues and boss appreciate it. & when you have a performance review/meeting I’m sure it’ll be discussed what a great job you do.

Do you have friends? Family? Concentrate on the relationships that you value. With people who’s opinion matters to you, because they like you for you! Not your looks. & Not how “amazing” your house is.

Lol I feel this way about my husband. Everyone tells me Inc my own mother how lucky I am to have him no one has ever said it to him about me. I don't care what anyone thinks anymore . Once you don't care its like having a superpower lol.

Two issues here. Firstly that you don't feel anyone says anything nice about you - I assume that's a self esteem thing or confirmation bias or whatever.

Secondly that people say nice things about unpleasant people. This I've always wondered about myself. I see this too. There's a certain type of fake or phony whom people just don't seem to be able to see through. Frustrating.

Was the person there when they were saying it?

There's a couple of sayings that immediately spring to mind...

"Comparison is the thief of joy"

"What other people think of you is none of your business"

I agree with a PP that this sounds like an insecurity on your part. Do you like yourself? If so, then it's irrelevant what other people think.

My house is a bloody mess most of the time. It's def not amazing
But people do say how welcoming a and relaxed it is (perhaps that's code for "god couldn't you have tidied before we came?" 🤣)
But I have a friend who does have an "amazing" house. She makes people take their shoes off outside the door and sends emails asking them to dress for dinner but not to wear heels as her floors don't like it.

I would rather have my house than hers