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haveyourcakeandeat · 31/05/2022 18:07

Right guys this is a long one I’ve known this guy for almost 11 years when he first met me when he split with his now ex of 12 years he said I was gorgeous and wish I’d go out with him anyways he’s stayed single for all these years and chased me each and every time and I didn’t give him until 12 months ago I thought was a genuine guy we will give it ago it was perfect couldn’t be any better but then he ex started he can’t have his daughter around me or my family he has a court agreement in place that he she’s her fortnightly and doesn’t state any other than to see her dad but he’s always listening to his ex she’s ruining his life and he’s letting her whatever she says goes so he’s told his ex that he didn’t want me and he was ending this with me but he didn’t until today and just out the blue he doesn’t love me doesn’t want me and he wants to be on his own nothing against me just how he feels he’s ripped my world apart why chase me for all them years and then when he had me treat me like this and even more so hurt me I never thought he would do that he’s seen me be hurt and treated disrespected and he’s just added to it

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haveyourcakeandeat · 31/05/2022 18:09

Chased me for 11 years

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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 31/05/2022 18:18

Didn't you post this earlier?

Furrbabymama87 · 31/05/2022 18:22

He's probably still got feelings for his ex or it's too complicated for him to date right now. I'd walk away and find a man who can prioritise you and not drag you into his problems.

haveyourcakeandeat · 31/05/2022 18:41

No first time posting

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yousexybugger · 31/05/2022 18:52

Why chase you for over a decade only to end it like this... maybe chasing someone unattainable was the bit he enjoyed if his personal life is messy and complicated and he isn't really available to date. He has what he thought he wanted only to realise a real relationship is something he can't sustain at current.

SmellyWellyWoo · 31/05/2022 19:22

A lot of men enjoy the thrill of the chase and also chase multiple women all the time without it meaning much emotionally- it's just their modus operandi. Sounds like he's still in love with his ex.

Overthewine · 31/05/2022 19:28

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MissMaple82 · 31/05/2022 19:41

Men don't prioritise their exes over their new girlfriends, if he wanted to be with you he would be with you. He's probably using the ex as an excuse. Men also like the chase, move on with your life

springbreak22 · 31/05/2022 20:05

You posted earlier, thread has been taken down

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