please help keep my mind off things

[KTurner]

So, I had a good male friend 10 years ago.

We started falling for each other but as we were both attached, we decided we had to put an end to things. Both upset etc...but no further contact.

Fast forward 10 years and I'm now married with 2 DD's. A couple of months ago I bumped into said male friend as we had an appointment same place, same time. Both totally shocked but swapped mobile numbers. Had some good old chats about what we've been upto. He's single but also has 2 DD's.

Met up twice since, just long chats, walks in the park, talking about things. But now we realise we're falling again. I have said I can't see him again, he agrees. He said he'll always be there if I need him but he doesn't want to cause any trouble for my family.

I just needed to tell someone and to keep my mind off him. I thought we could be friends again but I love my DH and DD's and would never hurt them.

i dont know what to say kturner,
i think i saw similar threads, maybe you can read and get some idea from them.
x

sounds like you have done the right thing to me - if there is a strong attraction there then you are best just staying clear. Especially as you love your husband....don't start playing with fire 'cause imo and ime it will only end up in heartache.

Just looking for strength....I can't eat, sleep or do anything except mope about.

Have tried taking my mind off it, it's not working.

I keep ending up phoning him and being on a high for an hour, then feeling worse.

Have tried being extra attentive to DH, was going to take him out for a meal tonight, but it's making me feel like I'm using him to get over my friend.

Please help!

Does you dh know you are back in contact with this man? DOes he know the history you once shared?

Yes, he knows. But he doesn't know how I feel now.

Think you have to be really strong and grown up here.

Delete number from your phone and don't get in touch again - will only lead to trouble.

Really not worth losing what you have - the grass isn't greener on the other side!

Good luck xx

Thanks Pimmpom. I know it's not greener, I really do, and I would never leave DH. Nor do I want to hurt him - I think that's part of the reason I'm so down, because I feel bad to him for even having these feelings.

I know I need to keep myself busy but I can't get motivated.

Make a plan to do something everyday next week - you can do it x

I will do. I have quite a lot planned next week anyway. Then again I did this week and have done hardly any of it...feel like I'm in a trance and it's horrible.

I keep telling myself I'm a responsible mum who has everything she needs - what on earth am I doing?! My DH is wonderful and doesn't deserve this.

You just said the words you need to hear

'I keep telling myself I'm a responsible mum who has everything she needs - what on earth am I doing?! My DH is wonderful and doesn't deserve this.'

Delete his number as suggested before, you know its the right thing to do.

Thank you, I know it is the right thing to do.