Dp and I are very close and when he broke his foot, i was off work with stress anyway as I'd been bullied by a boss, so we were together all day every day and besides my DP he's also my best friend and we get on sooooo well.
We've got a baby on the way (I'm 23 weeks) and he's been looking for a job for a while (tho his foots not properly healed, he needs a job because I'm struggling with the rent with my two jobs and doing nightschool and I need to go off on maternity leave soon, as i have to get it all out of the way so that i can return to teaching and doing my PGCE in September).
The problem is, he's been really down for about a week now because he couldn't find a job and had been searching for a while. He's finally got a job but it's 7 til 7 days and nights for most of the week, working totally alone in a tiny freezing cabin on a deserted site. I spoke to him on the phone and he's snappy again (after being so excited and hopeful this morning) and he's really unhappy as he likes to be doing lots of manual work.
We're SO excited about the baby we talk about it loads and it cheers us up but he's not going to get to spend much time at home with us because of his job which he said is 'soul destroying'. I feel terrible for him and want to make him happy but we're in catch 22.
On top of everything, he feels really weird about doing things in the bedroom because of me being pregnant. So the physical side to our relationship has come to a stop. he said he can't wait to get back on track after the baby is born, but for the moment he doesn't want to do anything like that because it's just plain weird. i can see his point. From a man's perspective it probably does seem a little strange having sex with a baby in my tummy but I miss it so much as we used to be like rabbits. I havn't felt rejected as he's so loving and he looks after me and he's perfect in every other way. However, now he's really down he's a little quiet and so I am starting to feel a little rejected- which is clearly not his intention. I'm worried he'll only see me as a mum and not sexy after we've had the baby which he promises he wont, but it's just niggling a bit with my hormones being everywhere.
He's a really lovely person and I just want him to be happy and I feel terrible that he's not at the moment (though we're still very happy together).
Does anyone have any advice?