Would you end a relationship because of this?

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Two years ago I was in a bad relationship,he would treat me like crap but for some reason I loved him,almost like I was addicted to him.
We broke up (well he discarded me) I spent a year so sad,so alone,no life and miserable.
Now I'm in a relationship and have been together a year.
My life has totally changed,we live together,I have a great social life with him,we are out once /twice a week.
He takes me on weekends away ,brings home flowers.
He surprised me with a holiday in September.
I also think he is going to propose.
I love him.
The thing is I don't get the same excited feelings that I got with my ex.
I don't feel the same feeling of happiness as I dif when my ex finally treated me nice.
I had a crush on my ex for years so was floating on air when we got together.

What do I do? I love my boyfriend
I honestly do.
I would do anything for him
I'm just missing that feeling
Do I give up my life now? The stability,the romance,the feeling secure (marriage and talking about kids ) (I'm 35)For a feeling of excitement ?
What do I do ?

That feeling of happiness you thought you felt with your ex was probably a rush of joy at getting something 'right' and therefore not being subjected to any more abuse.

What you have now seems to be a balanced relationship with someone who truly values you.

No way would i break up with him!

Of course not.

You stay with him and be happy.

The grass is not greener elsewhere.

I think you should leave him so he has a chance to find someone who appreciates him.

You're addicted to drama by the sound of it - the adrenalin rush can be addictive. Read up on trauma bonding. Your abusive relationship only ended because he dumped you, if he hadn't you'd probably still be on that roller coaster getting hit upon hit of emotional highs and lows.

I'm serious about you leaving him. You are not in the right place mentally for a mature, stable relationship. Perhaps do some work on your boundaries and self-esteem before starting another relationship. Have a look at The Freedom Programme.

pinkyredrose has it in one.

It was the drama, the adrenalin, the reward areas of your brain exploding when you got the approval you were trained to crave. You must have paid one hell of a price for those moments.

Excitment and happiness are quite different.
If you want some more excitement and thrills you can also work to add them to the relationship.

But I'm afraid that what you had was probably the usual cycle of abuse.
If that's what you want, as pointed out, then move on.

I totally agree with @Pinkyredrose on this one. You had adrenaline rushes from the drama with your ex. The highs being so high. And the lows being so slow. Because it was abusive.
I used to be that way myself when I was younger, as I was so used to the abuse. I didn't recognize the good ones.
Fortunately as you age, you REALLY get over the drama. And crave the loving, stability, trustworthiness that a real relationship should be like.
Your BF sounds lovely! Stable, drama free and seems to truly love and value you. Sounds as if he's definitely a keeper!

You want to end a healthy relationship? Why, so you can have another abusive one?

You need trauma therapy. And to relearn the difference between fear and excitement, relief and joy.

Don't sabotage yourself.

I agree you would benefit from trauma therapy.

Your ex was like a drug addiction, your body craved the highs because the lows were so low. It’s the cycle of abuse and it’s normal in a toxic relationship - read up on trauma bonds and try to heal. Normal, safe relationships feel incredibly boring sometimes after an abusive relationship, don’t give it up but please do the work to heal from your ex.

I should listen to yourself and your wishes. If you're happy now, don't compare it to temporaty excitment.