Hi there, I've been struggling with home life for a while a bit of background - I stopped work, limited phone use and contact with friends to nothing has been or is going on. I took our kids out on every visit outside the house even raced about to ensure it was quick shopping or bank visit etc. My wife has cited 2 long term affairs on going for years alongside my behaviour over the last few weeks and adamant there's now hope. Firstly I confronted both affairs head on 6months ago and recently, how can she think this when i havent? , she says her proof is group chat messages which appear a bit cryptic as well as general calls chatting about general day to day items she has picked up on flaws in from 1 or both women in question, even coded FB posts (note i dont use FB). I thought I'd take a lie detector as proof, passed all questions to prove my innocence 6months ago and we stayed together. It didnt work entirwly as she said it was fake. I let her access all my phone and contacts, emails, keep my laptop on, limit outside contact with people to show there is nothing there. She has an answer for everything, how can I be connecting to people, who and why? She says I just am, apparently I'm manipulating people, mind control and read books on lieing and can. I suggested another go keep it together work on it, open communication more. This hasn't helped. She makes, small comments, references, I was unhappy she became unhappy. We never went for counselling. It came to a head last month when I had enough of the behaviour and copied what she does, where are you going? How long for who with etc how alhave things taken that long, why are you on social media at that time of night etc it was childish but I wanted to show her it's not healthy. I also pointed out that her mother spent an unhealthy amount of time texting her, calling her and even being with her, perhaps 20x a day calls/texts maybe an hour or 2 together and this is after she lived with us and became my wife's shadow for 9months. Regardless I pushed on, to the point I was so angry I started to withdraw, ignore and the hope was she would question and realise these affairs are nonsense. It backfired, she wants to seperate blaming the last few weeks, adamant, I've suggested it's caused by the belief she thinks I have had and still having these affairs. I suggested counselling again. Stupidly I brought up the affairs to the husbands of the women as my wife's behaviour to them became funny and off. They supported my decision and want to help but how can I help her? My wife is adamant and told people I have been. It's causing sides to be taken and I'm worried it will impact our kids, future if we have one together or apart. I suggested she may have delusionals and want to help her. What can I do? It seems she is being advised to go down the line of emotional abuse by me.