I have posted before about relationship breakdown, cancelling wedding months before wedding.
how do you break up with someone who you love? Who has done nothing wrong is lovely and is totally In love with me still?
My feelings for my partner changed a year ago.. and I was feeling like we aren’t compatible anymore. I got cold feet and called off the wedding but was willing to keep trying and work on our relationship. Months have passed and I still feel like my feelings haven’t changed. I know it’s not healthy but I didn’t want to just give up. I still love my partner but that In-love feeling has gone, and I can’t get it back. It’s more like a familiar love. He’s kind, caring and attentive towards me but lacks drive. I feel like his mum when it comes to housework or any planning. We have no kids but honestly feel like I’ll be the one doing all the heavy lifting in the parenting department. I can’t honestly imagine my life staying in this same stale routine. Both in 30’s so have much more life to live! We are like an old married couple already, never go abroad anymore, he hasn’t planned any holidays (I thought I would see if he would suggest a holiday but nope) we just come home from work, watch TV then sleep, the thought of that for the rest of my life is depressing. We have also discussed that he lives in his own world and finds it hard to express how he’s feeling. He blames it growing up in the 2000’s. I just find it hard to have a natural, organic, healthy conversation about our feelings. To him everything is.. fine. But everything is definitely not fine, I cancelled the wedding and have gone back on birth control! I think he’s just brushing all of it under the carpet.. but I can’t.
I guess what I’m asking here is how do you leave someone that you desperately don’t want to break their heart? How can I start the process when we don’t communicate anyway?