Is ED/PE the norm for 50+ year old guys?

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After a long sexless marriage with a DH with very low and then no sex drive at all, I’m just trying to manage my expectations, but is it the norm for men past 50 to have ED/PE?

I want to feel attractive and have fulfilling sex, rather than get started and then feel deflated and have to pretend it’s not an issue.

Thank you.

Find a fit and healthy one who has always looked after himself.

Some men don't look after their health as well as others. Find a healthy one and they will likely go well beyond 50.
Can't say its been that much of an issue for me dating. Some men are less firm, but not being able to do PIV at all is rare I'd guess as not experienced that. Some men are quicker than others - but were probably always that way. Some go longer than is ideal ( and in some cases think they should eak it out as long as possible - not necessary beyond a certain time frame which is up to individual taste). Some men are better at certain things than others, everyone is different- if you find a good all-rounder, that's great too.