Inappropriate

[Flyingfoxy]

I recently introduced my new partner to my family, he afterwards commented to me gow attractive my neice was and did she like older men, she is 30 he is 69, I cannot getthis out of my mind but he didnt seem to think it strangebut has completely overlooked the way this may have made me feel, I don't know what to do, I have known him for over 30 years.

Eww. Creep. Get rid of him.

I don't think it's odd for a 69 year old to find a 30 year old attractive. But it's completely inappropriate and frankly also very rude to mention this to his DP. How's it supposed to make you feel? :(

eugh what a creep, it’s one thing to think it, it’s a whole other thing to let you know he’s thinking it and prefers her to you.

get rid.

Oh fuck that totally sleezy I would now make it a point and tell him that it is your auntie duty to keep old sleezes who the fuck do you think you are men away from her and dump his awful ass.

Yuk that's gross!

So he's sounding you out to see if she might fancy him? Bin him.

Is there a chance that the ‘Does she like older men?’ comment was a horribly misjudged joke? Because otherwise it seems very odd that he asked you this outright.

Mind you, a boyfriend of my friend once asked her for my number just after they broke up, so some people just have zero boundaries!

disgusting. Imagine what your nice would think of a 69 year old leering after her.

Did he ask in a joking way or dead serious?

Sad that you’ve only discovered what a vile creep he is after introducing him to ring our family. End things now, he is a sad old perv.

what a gross thing to say. That is so horrible, your niece would be mortified if she knew. In my experience, not matter what their age, some men think younger women will find them attractive.

Did he ask in a joking way or dead serious?

Does it matter ?

Thank you all, I think the same, was hoping after 30 years and rekindling the relationship it would be a fairytale if it worked out but don't think I can trust him now, he said it was a joke but he was obviously thinking it, back to the drawing board😣

Ugh. Not just that he fancied someone, but that he mentioned it to you.

Yuck.
Sounds like a narcissistic triangulation move.
To get you to constantly wonder if he would prefer a younger woman. To make u insecure.
Get rid.

It's gross to even think it, at 70 he shouldn't be having thoughts like that about a 30 year old! It should be that fatherly feeling.

Absolutely revolting. I wouldn’t be able to stand having him near me. Creep.

The poor niece though having some bloke knocking on seventy perving on her.

This. And it's particularly abhorrent because no doubt neice would have considered him a 'safe' man due to being old and her aunt's partner, so would likely have talked to him, maybe even allowed a hug from him, when all the time he's sleazing after her. Revolting.

thank you all, some of your replies made me laugh, I now know what I have to do 😡

It’s a bit of a worry you had to ask, tbh

@CookPassBabtridge Between the ages of 50 - 70, something strange happens to some, maybe a lot of men. It's like they think it's the last chance to shag someone that young and it makes them behave in disgusting, desperate and reckless ways. Most, if not all of the men I had a bad or yucky feeling around when I was younger were in that age bracket. I've had unpleasant experiences that have made me very wary of them ever since.

Hes an arse hole. Who says that? Would you? Yuck

Saying she's attractive (as in 'she's pretty') is fine - people have eyes. I'm younger than the niece, it's not Percy if someone compliments me.
Asking if she likes older men is completely weird and also very brazen to say in front of your partner.