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Grass greener or something more?

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Hmmmjs · 27/05/2022 19:10

I ended up with someone in quite a high powered job, I admit no it largely because it’s sort of expected in my social circle and I felt under pressure. I did fall in love with DP and there’s lots there that we have in common. He’s a good man, if not brilliant always at being a partner. I’m pregnant.

Over the last few months DP has let me down here and there, forgetting scans etc. I’ve just felt quite alone.

ive had a friend from school ive been in touch with for the last ten years, well before I met DP. Nothing ever happened between us and I haven’t actually seen him for over ten years! But we’ve always stayed in touch and laughed often, have the same humour etc. Years ago I wouldn’t have even considered him as he didn’t fit the criteria expected in my social cuticle (I’m aware what a dick I sound there).

Anyway in the last year we’ve grown closer. Absolutely nothing sexual but equally he is like my best friend. I can’t help imagining what that would be like in a relationship. I just don’t have that with DP.

That said, for all I know in day to day real life this man could be terrible as a partner. I have no idea. I just hate the fact me and DP don’t really have a friendship in any real way.

I sometimes want to tell my friend how I feel but he doesn’t even know I’m pregnant yet. I feel rubbish.

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MissConductUS · 27/05/2022 20:52

Probably grass greener, buyer's regret, etc. I was quite emotional while pregnant, especially early on.

Try to evaluate your relationship with your DP independently of your friendship with the other bloke. When he misses scans, does he have a very good reason? Is he remorseful when he lets you down?

Coffeeandtv87 · 27/05/2022 22:18

Probably not moving in the right circles, but what is a social cuticle?!

MissConductUS · 27/05/2022 23:54

Coffeeandtv87 · 27/05/2022 22:18

Probably not moving in the right circles, but what is a social cuticle?!

I assumed it was an autocorrect failure for circle.

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