He still loves his ex

[dribbler00]

Hi I'm new here and don't know where else to turn.

Recently my partner of two years rang his ex and he told her he still loves her, he admitted this to me and then tried to justify it by saying he loves me more. My head is now all over the place and I don't know what to do about our relationship. He wasn't fair to me in the beginning and was seeing other women but I didn't find this out until months later. I thought I had gotten over him seeing other women but because of what he said to his ex, all the thoughts of him seeing these other women have resurfaced. I have tried to talk to him about it and now he just says he doesn't love her.

My god raise your bar and ditch the twat. His ex should be welcome to him.

How old are you both and how long was he with his ex? I still love my ex even though I'm in another relationship now, but it's not a romantic love I feel for him, it's a love borne of being with someone for a very, very long time and is not a threat to my current relationship.

Likewise, when he was seeing other women, were you exclusive at that point?

Of course, he might just be playing you, but it's not always necessarily that clear cut.

Narcissistic triangulation.
Basically, trying to make you feel like you will never be enough for him by namedropping other women qnd feelings for them.

And then (shortly to follow) crazymaking. Trying to make out you are overreacting or over sensitive to have a problem with his unacceptable behaviour. Lowering your expectations for the way he should treat you as future.

Time to go now. Or you'll spend the rest of your life with a man who makes you feel like you aren't enough. Worst case scenario, he'll cheat on you too.

Run. And be bloody glad you found out before you got married or had kids with him.

*born

You can't possibly dump him fast enough, unless you want to be miserable, of course.

Oh god please don't do what I did and stay. Just run away very fast. Now.

Yeah, he doesn’t love either of you. He loves himself.

time to walk away.

Ditch him before you end up tied to him in some way.

Reading just the first part of your post I would say yes he still loves his ex. But reading the rest of it about other women etc, like a pp said he loves no one but himself. This is worse than just being in love with an ex.

I don't know what to do about our relationship

What are the different options you feel are open to you? Is staying with him one of them?

Just leave. You deserve so, so much more than being made to feel constantly insecure and anxious by someone who isn't close to meeting you even halfway in this 'relationship.'

And 100x what @Pinkbonbon said!

This is horribly reminiscent of an old relationship of mine. Listen to your gut and leave if you can.