Weight

[Li60]

I’ve posted on here before as my husband has been very derogatory about my weight since I’ve gone from an eating disorder weighing 7.5 stone and a size 6 to a healthy size 12. Tonight he said he thought my trousers were going to explode as my pockets were open !! I mean what the heck !!!! I mean he’s no skinny Malinky himself ! He’s put on a lot of weight but I would never criticise someone on their appearance it’s just not what I’m about.

I think this definitely is separation territory.

Even without your ED past, he is showing cruelty and arrogance. He thinks he can judge your (very 'normal') weight but that he doesn't have to be that great himself, ie a mysogynist, or he thinks he is great and he wants you to shape up to match the sex god he is (ie arrogant and deluded). He continues to say things that are unkind and hurting you. He knows they hurt you but still wants to do it.

Then add in your prevous disordered eating, and his comments are plain dangerous. I can't comprehend someone saying such things to someone who has suffered with ED. He knows where that could send you. That turns his comments from being unfair, unkind, cruel in to being plain evil and vile.

Hardly overweight is it size 12!! I am a size 18 now, dread to think what he woud think of me