Hi guys,
Can I just start of by saying please don’t say mean stuff. I’m here to get things of my chest as I have no one to speak to, I’m already alone and vulnerable.
So I’ve been with my partner for almost 2 years. I got pregnant last year after thinking I was infertile for 10 years, I’m currently 8 months pregnant with a lot of health conditions and in severe agony from the health conditions which really restrict my movement and stuff.
My partner started off as a great guy. So loving, caring, he did whatever. We had laughs and jokes and it was just the best relationship I’d had. We moved in together and we were literally best friends. I then started to feel insecure because he would speak to females that were more than just friendly and when I would confront it he would make me feel like I’m delusional so I never would get anywhere with it.
I had a lot of trouble from his ex who he has 2 children with, in which she abused me of fake accounts day in and day out for months on end. He began saying to me, I should have known it was going to be like that and I should suck it up, it’s normal. Just small things like this began to break me, I started to lose myself a bit. But with nowhere to go and no one to turn to or speak to as I was isolated at this point, we had moved to a diff city I stayed. I got pregnant and we had a miscarriage, through the miscarriage he was great support and it brought us closer again. We then got pregnant not long after again, which is the baby I’m currently 8 months gone by with. When I first found out I was pregnant again and I announced it to him and he was so excited and the following day I told a colleague/friend and he got angry because I had ruined the specialness. Small things like this got more and more consistent.. Then we broke up for 2 weeks in November last year, I was back at my moms and heartbroken and pregnant. I was completely ignoring any contact with him and eventually decided to speak again, he lured me back in with promises of changes etc and like a fool I went back, because I wanted my baby to have a family. From December into January I found messages and conversations on his phone with other girls, extremely flirtatious ones and these girls bad mouthing me, some of these girls were the ones he told me were just friends and I was being delusional over. Again he talked his way out of it, staying with him literally has made me a whole new person, I’m the most unhappiest I’ve ever been but I feel so helpless.
Since Jan things have happened and there has been a lot of arguments. But he ended it with me a few weeks ago, having no one I went back to my moms again, as during our relationship I had no friends and wasn’t seeing friends and was only around his I decided to go to a sit down brunch with his best friend and her friends. Due to the fear he struck in me and the paranoia I have of accusations from him constantly even when we are over I turned my location on (as that’s how it was whilst we were in a relationship) just so he isn’t able to accuse me of doing other things as he does he hated the fact that I went out with his friend for brunch, he phoned me and my mom and his friend caused a massive scene which led me to leave the brunch after an hour and go home. Bearing in mind I’m 7 months pregnant at this point and already just so depressed. I just needed to get out the house as I hadn’t been anywhere and had no one except them and since then has been so abusive. His become a whole different person, he puts me down every other hour of the day because he says he feels disrespected that I went and did that so he will disrespect me, he calls me names and treats me like absolute crap. I’m now 8 months pregnant and suffering with several problems and he doesn’t care, I literally have to slave around the house and have to do anything on his demand and if it is not done instantly he will fight, put me down, tell me I’m not good enough and sit there for hours belittling me and telling me how I am good for nothing and every name under the sun. I’m so on edge, I’m so scared to do anything. Even if I sit for 5 mins he’ll tell me to go do something and I’ll have to or he’ll fight. I have to do everything down to brushing his hair and if it’s not done right away he will have a go. I have to get him a drink on demand, I have to order anything he wants on demand, he will give me 10 duties to do within an hour back to back and if I don’t get them done it’s always a fight and belittling. I can’t argue back as he gets even more nasty than what he already is, even when I’m next to him in obvious pain he will demand me to do things. Even if I’m working (work from home) I will have to cater to his needs as he says he comes before anything. I’m just so tired, I can’t even get a lie down without him fighting about me not having done something he asked. His a Muslim so is now making me dress conservatively and he also says as my surname is English it doesn’t work for him so I have to change it to his even if his not marrying me. He said he will stop disrespecting me and treating me like shit if I give him 10k or hand over all parental rights to him for my unborn baby. I need to get out and I hate him but I don’t know how, he made me lose my mind at one point he locked the room door and I threatened to kill myself as he was just tormenting me, he recorded this and holds it against me. I wasn’t really going to do this, I’m just so broken I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to go live in bedsits and run down flats with my baby by reporting myself homeless but I also know I need to get away from him but his going to come for me and my baby and please don’t say go to the police, he is the most manipulative and psychotic person I have come across. I just needed to get this off my chest as I have no one to speak too.