DP driving me mad

[Beautifulnightmares]

This is mostly just a rant as I don't feel able to talk to anyone IRL about this.

I've been with my DP for 3 years, we are expecting a baby end of July.
I've just been signed off work for a few weeks, starting two days ago due to stress.
This is a build up of issues with work over the last 2 years that have finally come to a boiling point and I've had a breakdown.
DP hates his job, but he's had 3 jobs since we've been together and has hated all of them.
In terms of stress, there isn't much in his current job, it's just that he would prefer to do something else.
I've told him to look for something else, I don't care what he does as long as he's happy as he is so moody everyday and it's insufferable.
He says he will but never does.
He's had a lot of time off in the time we've been together, I'd say about 20 plus instances of a day here and there but there wasn't anything wrong with him 90% of the time, he just wanted a day off!!
He's now just announced he's going to call the doctor and try to get signed off work too.
I'm so angry, there is nothing wrong with him other than being work shy to be completely honest.
I've worked hard since I was 16, I've had less time off in 15 years than he's had in 3, and I felt unbelievably guilty and a lot of anxiety over being signed off as I've never had anything like this happen to me
This has only happened due to the stress affecting me physically and concerns for the baby.
We are really struggling for money due to the cost of living increases, and honestly if he was the one carrying the baby I'd be working overtime right now to ease the money issues, but he wants to go on sick.
I'm being paid full for my time off, he will only get statutory.
I really do love him, but I just do not undertand his lack of work ethic.
When I've tried to address his work absences in the past, he gets very defensive and doesn't speak to me for hours.
I just want him to feel pride in working and supporting our family, rather than trying every excuse to not work.
I don't know why I thought he'd change when we decided to have a baby, but I really thought he would.
I just know he's going to make my maternity leave hell with his daily moodiness.
I don't know what to do ☹️

[StrangeCondition]

Honestly? If this was me I would leave, he sounds lazy and a potential cock lodger

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

Don't put up with this from him.

I would make plans to leave and raise your child without him in your life day to day because all he will do is drag you all down with him. I would also give your child your surname rather than his. What is the situation re the property?.

[girlmom21]

Imagine how he's going to be after a few disturbed nights when the new baby's here?

[Shoxfordian]

Plan to be a single parent because he’s not going to support you

[toomuchlaundry]

What’s the plan for after your maternity leave?

[Watchkeys]

When I've tried to address his work absences in the past, he gets very defensive and doesn't speak to me for hours

This conflict resolution style will be the end of the relationship. It essentially means that you can't talk about anything you want to talk about. Only things that he wants to talk about.

How will you deal with parenting together if he refuses to talk to you?

[Bananalanacake]

Can you live separately but he spends equal time with the baby. If he lives on his own he can't sponge off you. And don't let him get out of parenting his DC

[settingsunshine]

LTB.

He's useless, an absolute sponge, I can't imagine the pressure on you to look after yourself and your unborn child and this man-baby.

Do you have family support?
If you do, use it and get away from him.