Fat and 50

[Menopants]

any Point in going on a dating app realistically

[ShandaLear]

Absolutely! Go for it and have fun. The vast majority of people are not supermodels and they’re not looking for supermodels. You’ll get your fair of share of creeps, but you’ll also talk
to some nice people and maybe get to meet someone special. If you don’t join you know nothing will happen, but if you do join, something might.

[Juniper68]

I agree. Go for it.
Are you joining one you pay for? I'm over 50 and if I was single I'd probably join the one for 50 plus but I like older men.
Met DH on POF but had to sift through a lot of crap to find my gem.

[Menopants]

thank you. I’m feeling really crap atm. Put on 2 stone due to marriage breaking up. I will think about it….

[Watchkeys]

Your attitude might be more of a problem, OP. People with all kinds of physical issues date successfully. If you come at it from an 'I don't stand a chance, here...' perspective, you'll attract different numbers and types of people than if you approach with a 'Right, lets see what fun we can have!' viewpoint.

Do you want a relationship with someone who would find a miserable person attractive?

[Afterfire]

What?! Most people are fat. Who cares? Doesn’t mean you’re not entitled to date and fall in love. You need to change your mindset. My mum joined a dating app at 70 and went on loads of dates!

[Juniper68]

I agree with being positive and confident about yourself before dating. Some people look for vulnerable dates and take advantage.

[Justkeeppedaling]

Some men actively seek out larger women 😀
Not saying I'd recommend "that sort of man" though.

[Menopants]

😳at the large woman fetish.

im not really miserable, I’m a right laugh just not feeling great about my appearance

[Menopants]

I’ve downloaded bumble and can’t quite bring myself to swipe right on anyone….

[Menopants]

I am quite far from being vulnerable I think. Possibly too far

[Sclover0604]

I’m over 50 and overweight but once I got my confidence back after my divorce I signed up and had lots of fun dates with men who couldn’t care less about my weight! I’m now happy with my partner who I met on Tinder who thinks I’m gorgeous and tells me so all the time - it’s totally about self confidence!

[Juniper68]

God bumble. Best of luck with that.

[Menopants]

@Juniper68

God bumble. Best of luck with that.

what app would u suggest?

[5128gap]

It would be disingenuous to pretend that it's not the case that the more physically attractive you are the wider your options will be. But, being fat and 50 does not mean you are not attractive. Many women are fat and gorgeous. Many are 50 and gorgeous. Many cleverly manage to be all three at once. Present yourself at your best and have confidence. I'm willing to bet on balance of probability that you are more attractive than most of the middle aged men on there.

[Blueskythinking123]

I met my partner on Bumble, but as people have said I had to sift through a lot of crap first.

I gained my confidence after my divorce by joining some local meet up groups. Not to date, but to socialise with different people (male and female). That really helped boost my confidence, I also lost some weight during this time and focused on my well-being.

[Juniper68]

@Menopants

what app would u suggest?

No idea but I thought bumble was more a shagging app? Ok if that's what people are after. I didn't want anything serious when I was on POF. Just ended up with a DH. I'm probably wrong and bumble fantastic. Just what I've heard from people (men) who've used it.

Dsd met her DH on match. I've heard people meeting people on the over 50s one and eHarmony. Pay for sites. You still get shagmuffins but also serious ones.

[Backontgedatingtrain22]

I would recommend bumble more than tinder. Give it a go OP. I met my bf there . Good luck