What to do with reminders of past relationship

[Almostthere1]

Last summer my relationship of 6 years ended in an upsetting way for me and it took me a while to move on. I now have a new partner, it’s going really well and I try not to ruminate on the past. However, I still have some gifts from my ex at home and I’m in two minds what to do with them. On one hand they meant so much back in time and I know they were given with sincere intentions. On the other hand they remind me about the plans for future together with ex that never happened and then I get upset.
What should I do?

Donate, destroy or sell. Move on.

Unless an item is v useful/practical and costly to replace - in which case just seek to adjust how you think about it - would get rid!

Eg if jewelry: get rid.

if a costly good looking and posh sofa and your alternative would be a cheapie futon: keep.

When my marriage ended I threw my wedding ring in the sea and offered jewelry to my dd but she refused it so I gave it to my niece's. Photos went to the tip along with various other personal gifts.

Do they mean more to you than they ought, given that you're with someone new? I mean, could you tell your new partner that you're not sure what to do with them?

If not, there's a bigger issue with regard to your not having let go of the past.

I think it depends, do they bring back happy memories?

I have a memory chest, I started it when my partner of 14 years died but I gradually weeded it out as I realised the stuff wasn't really important & I didn't need loads of stuff!

But I kept Birthday cards & valentines cards & I've now added a couple of special things of my mum & dads, I have nice cards& notes from my now husband, especially nice cards from friends,.

It's a joy to have a rifle through now & again, reminds me I am loved but it isn't cluttering up anywhere - and I call it a memory chest but it isn't that big!

I’m struggling with the gifts that made me v happy back in time, possibly because there are conflicting emotions attached to those things (extreme happiness then; sadness when it all ended). Sometimes I wonder that in the future I might regret disposing of them too hastily.

Put them in a box in "deep" storage and decide in a year's time.

What are they?
If they are useful things then just use them. My ex bought me a very specific item for a musical instrument once - I did think about replacing it so I don't have to be reminded of him, but it's expensive, doesn't need to be used too often and as time has gone on, it's lost its connection to ex.
If they are things like cards and teddies or decorative items or fuck knows what and you can't face throwing them away now, just shove them in a box, tape it up and store it somewhere until you are more in a place to decide what to actually do with them.

They can't have any emotional impact in the future unless you still feel the emotional connection to what they represent.