I have been in a relationship with a married man for over 2.5 years. I knew he was married when I met him as was I. He told me his marriage had been over for some years and they slept in separate bedrooms for past 5 years. I left my husband for him nearly 2 years ago. He eventually told his wife about us 9 months ago. She threw him out and he came to mine, but left after the weekend saying the house is jointly owned. I have seen since papers he'd hidden that she started divorce proceedings on adultery but he ignored them, she then proceeded with unreasonable behavior, there's also letters from her solicitor asking he discloses his finances. He has still not done this. (No children involved). I also found a letter she wrote to him wishing him well and she hopes he has now found the woman he has been searching for all his life, there was no animosity in the letter. I know he has had several affairs throughout his 3 marriages. It seems she was fed up with his cheating and is relieved they are splitting. From what we can see she is now seeing another guy. I am now getting fed up of waiting for him to leave or at least get his finances sorted and the divorce settled so we can move on. Our plan is to buy a house together. We are both 56. I know he is worried she will go for half his pension. I keep on at him to speed things up but he never does. Am I wasting my time?