My 10 yr relationship ended suddenly 3 years ago and for the past 2 years I have been actively trying to move on. Some days/weeks are good, but some days there are lots of tears. I know I am stuck in the past and wasting time thinking of what could have been - ex now has a child with someone else - but it’s so hard. I have had no contact with him for 9 months and stopped contact with his family and although that has helped it hasn’t helped as much as I’d hoped. I’ve also seen 3 counsellors in the 3 years.
How the f**k do you ladies do it?
Wish I could draw a line and be done with it. But I still feel connected to him and that he’s familiar and like home. I absolutely bloody adored him. I think him having a child has made me feel like he is all sorted whilst I am still struggling to find my way. Feel like I am totally stuck and can’t see a way out of this. My ex’s life has totally changed but I am still exactly where I was, but just without him. Fact that I am in early 40s is totally freaking me out as I have realistically missed my chance for children (something I’m v angry at ex for). Also have been seeing a lovely man but it seems the experience of the break up has made me completely emotionally inept. A friend told me it took her 5 years to get over her cheating husband but I don’t have that much time to waste. Have wondered about anti-depressants but at the same time, I know the reason for my low mood/tears so that makes me think they aren’t appropriate? Maybe some major life changes are needed? Really wish there was a handy little pill that would erase all memories of him. Everywhere I go there’s bloody memories. Even looking at my dog made me sad the other day as we got him together. Why are some men such tossers? (Apologies to any nice men reading this 🙂).