Life after long term relationship…Fwb a good idea or not?

[Theonlywayisup11]

After 10 years with someone and the aftermath of separating, is a fwb a good idea to take your mind off things or not?

We’ve been apart for nearly 2 months now, although do still speak daily. However I can see that that part of my life is now over, despite his empty promises, he’s never going to be the man I want. I am ok by myself, but I miss having someone to be around from time to time. I’ve got the option of a blast from the past, who has made it very very clear he would happily be my fwb. I’ve explained that I wouldn’t want to use him to make myself feel better when I still have feelings for my ex, but he is happy with that situation.

good idea or not?

any success stories out there where they helped you get over it rather than cause more heartache in your life?

Why speak to your ex daily ? Isn’t it just prolonging your hurt…

Fwb is ok if you aren’t likely to get attached. I couldn’t do it personally.

Sounds ideal. Enjoy.

stop talking to ex tho - why do you need that?

And why shouldn’t you ‘use’ him if he is also happy with that?

It’s complicated, but we desperate due to him dealing with past trauma, which he feels he wants to deal with alone. He states I'm his soulmate etc but he just can’t be in a relationship at the moment, but would like our future…I can see now just breadcrumbing.

I really don’t think I’d get attached. Back in the day I would have loved to have been with him, but a lot has changed. I’m not even sure if I want to have sex with him, but it would be a distraction and a means to get over my ex….

You read all the time to not get involved with someone new if you are not over your previous relationship yet? But does that apply if it’s purely a fwb?