Relationship breakdown

[beckyburty80]

Hi there so I am very new to all of this but I am at the end of my tether.Anyone who's been through something similar or can give any advice please contact me.

So back in 2008 I started dating my ex partner I had a 3 Yr old daughter at the time we became very close but he was living with his parents at the time and would end up staying at mine 3/4 nights a week I was renting a property and was working part-time. A bit further on down the line my partner inherited some land which he built a 2 bedroom dorma bungalow he moved in to that in January 2011 and asked me and my daughter to move in with him in the may so I gave up notice on my flat.

A few yrs down the line in 2014 myself and my partner decided we wanted to have children together and in my march 2016 I had my 2nd child. I was and always have worked and contributed to the home, after having our 2nd child my partners dad gave us some more land to build another,larger home on which we completed in 2018 and moved in to it the December of that year.

In 2019 we got engaged and was set to marry in May 2020 in February 2020 I was made redundant from my job and set up my own cleaning business which was going well until cv hit I had to stop working for a while but my partner could continue in his work, obviously our wedding got pursponed and we didn't rebook it

In October 2020 we found out I was expecting our our second child together I was worried through this pregnancy alot as I was nearly 41 and couldn't get any straight answers from tests or scans if my baby was OK I was stressed and worried throughout pregnancy and had previously suffered with pnd my partner wasn't supportive through my pregnancy even after lots of discussions with him about how I was feeling my son came along in the may 2021 things wasn't to bad for a while we had a split for 2 weeks in September 2021 but tried to work things out.

In January 2022 I made the hardest decision to call it a day with my partner as I was sooo unhappy I asked him to leave the family home as I know he had somewhere nice and safe to go where as I didn't. He has continued to badger me over message or in person about when me and the children are leaving his house but I have no money to my name as I had to take my son out of nursery and give up my job as my ex partner took our family car from me.

We are currently starting mediation but I received a letter from his dad's solicitor saying he wants me of the land by the 15th of June this Yr which is basically making me and our children homeless I cannot afford a solicitor as I am only receiving uc at the moment. Please if anyone can help or give advice I would be eternally grateful.

OP, I've reported your post because it's in the wrong topic and you really shouldn't put personal details like your email address.

I've asked MNHQ to edit by removing your email address and moving this to the relationships board.

I do hope you get some helpful advice. Best wishes.

OK sorry like I say I am new to this page didn't realise I couldn't put email and I'm not even sure what topic I had put it under.

Hi OP, we've moved your thread over to our Relationships topic. Hopefully some more Mumsnetters will be along soon with some advice and support for you.

So the main thing here really is who actually owns the land and the house. When you say your partner's dad 'gave' you the land what does that mean? was there a legal transfer of ownership of some kind? And how was the building of the house financed? I think you really are going to have to get proper legal advice though, and fast.
Have I got it right that there are 3 children, two by your ex and one from a previous dad?

Hi
Thankyou for your reply so both the houses that wa built was built on my partners dad's land but we wasn't given any paper work the 1st house that was built cost around £60,000 which my partner had savings for we then sold that house to my partners dad in the region of £140,000 which has funded the home that I am currently living in with the 3 children which yes 2 are with him age 6 and 1

Thankyou

Are you on the deeds to any of these houses?

No paperwork at all for the house you live in and the land it's on?
That's shocking. You really are going to have to talk to someone legal. I suggest you phone a couple of solicitors and try and put the issue over the phone to see if it's something they feel they can take on.
Or go to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau but you really must act quickly or you and the children could be homeless. There must be some way (I AM NOT QUALIFIED IN ANYTHING LEGAL BY THE WAY) of getting some kind of interim injunction to prevent you from being evicted. I know you had this moved to relationships but I wonder if you might be better in legal - you don't have to get it moved, you can start another thread in legal.

Good luck OP. It's a muddle but you must have some rights.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/legal_matters

Thankyou, yes absolutely no paperwork that I was ever aware off and house hasn't been signed off by building regulations yet as it needs pressure testing.Thankyou I copy my post and put in on legal page.I have contacted solicitors and they want a good about just to be seen to explain my circumstances also contacted cv and didn't get much help there either unfortunately.