I’ve know my exSIL for nearly 20 years now, I’ve been divorced from her DB for over 8 years and have a teenage DS. My SIL has a school age DC and an adult DC. She’s estranged from her DB due to his awful behaviour towards her and her family, and DV was the reason for me divorcing him.
She’s always been really friendly towards me, and I like her. During the first year or so, after I split from her DB, she was an amazing help to me, she helped out with the odd bit of childcare and would give me company on the days out with the kids, and general be a friendly face to talk to. But as expected we’ve drifted over the past few years. I’ll maybe see her and the dc a couple of times a year, usually instigated by me, as I want my DS to have a relationship with his cousins, which he won’t get via his DF.
The last few times I’ve suggested meeting up she hasn’t been able to make it due to various, valid reasons, but I feel it’s now always me reaching out to her. I recently asked if she was free a certain weekend, she said she couldn’t make it as it was too close to her DDs wedding, but was I coming to the evening do. I explained we didn’t get an invite. I thought maybe due to covid they’d reduced the number of guests and I wasn’t expecting one. We exchanged a few pleasantries after that, ending with me asking her to let me know when she was next free and we’d meet up. That’s the last I’ve heard from her. Should I just let it go now? Her DC have birthdays soon, should I get them something? I really enjoy her company but I’m not sure the feeling is mutual any longer and I don’t want to be one of those people that just don’t get the hint.