Inlaws...

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Most women I know roll their eyes at having to do things with in laws.. including me.
Why do we do this, does it feel like a chore ?

I wonder what the DHs think of their MiLs...

Mothers in law have been the butt of male comedian's jokes for many years, so I think we already know the answer to that!

I'm a MIL and it's all fine. The trick is to leave them to live their own lives and not force them into your own expectations. I'd never try to monopolise my family's life or control their decisions in any way.
We catch up for a meal every now and again, and they all know they can come to us if they need anything but we force nothing onto them.
My daughter's MIL is great, and similarly has her own life, so is no trouble to anyone while being supportive when she's asked.

I understood the OP to be about in-laws in general, not MILs in particular. I tend to think that the in-laws are people that we wouldn't necessarily choose as friends, so seeing them is more duty than pleasure. My dd will often meet me for a dog walk or a coffee, and her dh will go see his family, and occasionally we all get together as a bigger family thing. Mothers day was good example, we all went out together (both sets of parents, the youngsters paid for both mums and the dad's paid their own way -probably sneakily subsidised too, because they are both lovely)