My partner wants to end our relationship

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My partner wants to end our relationship. Apparently there are too many problems, too many arguments, I make everything difficult.

I agree with some of this. There are too many arguments. I don't start any of them. But I am the cause of all of them. They all start with
"You did this"
"Why did you do that?"
"Why do you think it's acceptable?"
"I don't understand why you think it's ok"

I absolutely agree with many of the stuff that is raised, and apologise and do my best to change. But some of it I don't agree with, and therefore it remains a problem, and the argument keeps coming up about the same stuff.

Because these arguments keep coming. I'm seen as the problem, and the difficult one, and causing all the problems.

I never complain about anything my partner does (doesn't mean that i don't get annoyed by stuff, it's just I think it's better just to be happy rather than focus on negatives)

I can't help but think the problem here is that I don't do everything my partner wants me to do. "My way or the highway"

Surely it's give and take?

When i've tried having explaining this, it descends into chaos and ends up with "you do this", "you do that" etc..and lots of examples of why i'm in the wrong

Examples are what i do wrong are:

I prioritise time with the children too much. We both have children with other people. I'm always keen to have the children more if the opportunity comes up. I think they are only this age once. Won't be long before they won't want to spend time with us
Double standards
Not romantic enough
Don't act as a team

When I'm told about specific things, I can change those easily. But the ones that are subjective, it feels like no matter what I do, I never quite manage to get there.

So it’s all your fault and your partner is perfect ?
Sounds like they are doing you a favour by going.

If he wants to separate then the relationship is over. Sorry OP but break ups don’t have to be mutually agreed upon.
Have you got someone to vent to about this?

Forget it op - it's never going to work and you'll just try and contort yourself into what he wants without ever managing it and make yourself miserable in the process. Let him go .

I was in a similar relationship. It was just utter misery for 5 years.

Now I'm with someone who accepts me totally for what I am and never ever moans about anything I am . He loves me for who I am not despite of it . Find someone who loves you for you .

All you can is accept her decision. It sounds like a stressful dynamic so best to accept it’s over and go your separate ways.

You don’t say how long you have been with him but no relationship should be as difficult as yours sounds. Maybe it’s time for you to just focus on you and your children?

When someone wants to end a relationship, 'You started it, you're the one who needs to change' is quite a childish attitude. He is changing, from coupled to single. That's his choice. If you can't respect his decisions, then you ought not to be in a relationship anyway, so it's a bit of a double bind.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

Well, if the things your partner doesn't like are things you're not willing to change, then yes, the relationship is over because you're not compatible.

You've posted before haven't you? I seem to recall there's a lot more than what's written here anyway.

Are you the man in the relationship OP, or a woman in a same-sex relationship? The way you describe the situation seems to be in a similar style to reverse posts.

Step parenting/blended families are so hard. It's so easy to become negative and seperate within them.

Sounds like it's an unhappy situation all round.

You either need to split up or go to marriage counselling. Sounds like there's a lot of resentments.

“If he wants to separate then the relationship is over. Sorry OP but break ups don’t have to be mutually agreed upon.”

this

you need to accept that the relationship isn’t healthy and move on.

There are always two sides to every story OP but it doesn’t sound like either of you are truly happy in your current situation. I wish you well

Your partner doesn’t like a lot of the things you do, and there’s two sides to every story, so they could have legitimate complaints, if you’re doing things which upset them whether you’re doing anything “wrong” or not, and are unwilling to change then it’s best to split up as you’re obviously not compatible.

No one has to give a reason to end a relationship and even if they do it's pointless trying to argue with them about it. It's over. Accept it and move on.

Sounds like maybe it's for the best

He sounds like a bullying cunt.

Let the trash take itself outside and enjoy your life with your children.

I'm always keen to have the children more if the opportunity comes up

Whilst this might be understandable do you priortise this over agreed time with your partner?
Not romantic, have you discussed what romance means? Is this date night, words of affection?? Have you asked for specifics?

However if she has determined the relationship doesn't work then I think you need to respect that decision

They don’t need your permission to end the relationship.

This relationship is shit, why you would want it to continue is beyond me. You should be thrilled it's over.

Do you get any enjoyment out of this relationship?

Do you feel equal and valued by your partner?

Do regularly be criticised because of the choices you wish to make sounds exhausting and soul destroying. You already sound very ground down in the way you are accepting it's all your fault while never criticising your partner.

Perhaps it's time you took some time alone with your children and decide if this is really how you wish to continue like this.

Did you have a question for us or anything, OP?

Sounds like your boy/girlfriend made a wise choice, ‘chaos’ and arguments are unnecessary and pathetically childish. Focus on parenting your kids.