Sharing money!

[usernamexxx86]

Do you and your OH share all money?

I ask this because... long term relationship, 2DC, I work part time due to childcare and partner works full time earning over 4 x my wage. However he puts about a third of his wage into the joint account and saves the rest in an individual account.

AIBU to be think both of our salaries should go to the joint account?

These things are never black and white - it really depends on your individual circumstances. I currently have more separate savings than my DH (and keep more each month). I am the higher earner, and I pay more in to the monthly bills (about 65-70%). But I absolutely keep the rest for me. My reason is that my husband's job is only 6 months of the year full time and then just the odd day in the off season. This is his choice, he has no inclination to work all year round. He choice (and yes I could give him an ultimatum to get one all year or leave - but equally I would hate him to be in a job he hated just for this reason). But by this token I am not giving him more "fun" money that I have earned because I work hard all year round to earn it. I know that if we ever split up then 50/50 is the start point, but as things stand I will spend my extra money in the way I want and he will have to work more if he wants more. The difference I guess is that our children are teens so he is not doing childcare whilst I am at work and he isn't - in your case if feels like your DH doesn't recognise or value your contribution in relation to your children, which I would not be happy about.