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Possible TW for SA. Am I being silly?

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LunarMoon92 · 20/05/2022 23:07

Okay so...I've been with my partner nearly 6 years. So lovely and I feel safe and happy with him. He's a boob man, and I don't mind him being silly and copping a feel now and then. Then tonight in bed I took my top off as it's hot. He came over complimenting me on my breasts and sucked on my nipple. Kissing them and fondling. I laughed it off continued on my phone and said he can have a feel just please don't put my nipples in his mouth as he knows I really dislike it. He kind of lay on my chest massaging my breasts. I clearly wasn't into it as far as having sex goes as was on my phone and just stroked his hair...but 3 or 4...maybe even 5 more times did he suck my nipple and each time I asked him to stop as I don't like it. I dislike the feeling. Eventually I said it abit harsher/upset. He kind of laughed it off as if I was being silly and then joked that It means I wasn't attracted to him and pretended to be upset. He could see I was upset. I tried to explain "He would rather I said I didn't want something if I was uncomfortablewouldnt he?" I went all quiet and he asked what was wrong and shrugged it off when I said I was upset about what had happened. He went to sleep and I had a few tears and feel sick. Am I over reacting? I kept asking him nicely to stop. I feel sick about it and all wrong.

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BoDerek · 20/05/2022 23:21

No you are not overreacting. Never doubt your feelings, they are there for a reason.

You are upset because he repeatedly did something to you that you specifically asked him not to. Worse, he abused your body which is sacred to you.

I’m sorry this happened. I can understand how he can laugh it off and how you might feel that you are overreacting but he is totally wrong and you have every right to feel betrayed because he has broken your trust and rules of intimacy.

Difficult to know how to move forward from here but if you wanted to I would encourage you to talk to a SA support service first because it can really mess with your head.

LunarMoon92 · 20/05/2022 23:27

Thank you for taking the time to respond. Where would I find the details to speak to someone? X

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