Have slept separately for 2 years. Can't stand bed sharing with him at all.
We have occasional sex but it's like scratching an itch.
We can speak to each other civil but I assume that's because we are both holding a lot back about what we think and feel (I am, anyway).
Feel profoundly I can't rely on him. Emotionally or physically.
Don't want to confide anything in him, especially not anything I feel emotionally vulnerable about.
I'm pregnant again and I honestly don't want him there for the birth. Trying to figure out how to arrange that without telling him in advance.
Being pregnant I'm probably over-sensitive. But every day he does something that leaves me in tears or feeling deliberately got at.
He struggles to deal with any emotional stuff; always has done.
Says he loves me -- I don't believe him.
I would be hurt if he had an affair, but would be pleased too because it might make him finally leave.
Very upset at the way he treats children. He can be great, but he shouts, has unrealistic expectations of them. I have to referee between him and DC a lot. He's good or okay for short infrequent periods.
I asked him to move out but he refused saying he'd miss us all too much. But then he seems to consistently resent the children and doing things for them.
I once suggested Relate but it would be pointless now because I wouldn't want to even try.
He's not abusive or bad with money or any of the truly awful things I know husbands can be. He's a hard-worker and does do some stuff around the house. But he's inconsistent, unreliable, unpredictable. Presumably I'm as bad at marriage as he is, am I blowing things out of proportion?
But for the DC I would have left long ago, but I have nowhere to go with them, and I am terrified of DC being hurt. I wish DH would just peacefully move out and visit infrequently, we could tell DC that he was moving part-time closer to work (long commute at present). And slowly let DC get used to the idea of us all living apart.