NC family member still contacting me.

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Is anyone NC with a family member that won’t leave them alone? what do you do? They have turned up at my house a few times and also sent letters/gifts for my children. Have been NC for 2 years, my kids are at an age where they can open the door etc by themselves so I hate the thought of them opening the door to them but also don’t like saying you can’t answer the door if anyone knocks as don’t want to live like that. Has anyone been in this situation?

That’s what I thought that it’s not a police matter but they won’t leave me alone I’m not sure what else I can do! I’ve been getting calls on my landline today as they are blocked, the only person that has my landline is my dad, I assumed it was him and was going to call him back but haven’t got round to it, got a call about an hour ago that I thought must have been him but I didnt realise how late it was, so when I saw the time I realised he would not call me at this time of night he always goes to bed early. I’ve checked the number and it’s theirs.

Honestly I’ve had enough now, they know why I don’t speak to them but they won’t leave me alone I want nothing more to do with them I don’t know what else I can do now other than call contact the police.
I’ve had to turn off all my lights and sit upstairs in the dark in case they show up.

Erm it is!

You need to be very blunt with your DF.

He needs consequences as it seems he is putting his own discomfort above your choices.

Of course it is, why would you think otherwise?

OP seems like your dad isnt sending the message for you. I would look into non molestation orders and/or a cease and desist letter. Something that makes it plain and clear they are not to contact you.

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OP seems like your dad isnt sending the message for you. I would look into non molestation orders and/or a cease and desist letter. Something that makes it plain and clear they are not to contact you.

Contact a solicitor, OP. Tell them what's been going on and get a cease and desist letter sent to them. Before your appointment, write down everything you've said here so your solicitor has a clear record and understanding of your requirements. Also tell your father you've done so, so it might help him understand how serious this situation is and that he should stop being an intermediary for people who don't have your interests at heart.

Take your solicitor's advice - including contacting the police, so they also have this situation recorded.

Sitting in the dark, in your own home, afraid because someone is harassing you is not a solution. 🌹

I would send a letter from a solicitor, stating they are not welcome to be there/contact/mail things to you. Make it clear you will consider it harrassment if it continues, and further action may be taken.

To be honest, it's not just your dad not sending the message; it's you. Why should you always pretend nor to be in? You need to show them that you are openly and blatantly ignoring them when they show up. Your passivity (hiding) is showing avoidance rather than outright no contact. You need to actually ignore them rather than pretend that you are not in.

I didn’t say I always pretend not to be in? I just don’t answer the door, I only turned the lights of last night as it was 10pm don’t want them at my door at that time of night, the other times I’ve just ignored the door knocking and they know I’ve been in. They know why I’m not talking to them trust me we had a massive argument and I’ve blocked them on everything. Im not answering the door as I don’t want to see them and I don’t want them to see my children (they haven’t in 2 years) think they are thinking as time has passed I would be over it but there is no going back.

Thanks all I will contact a solicitor.

This.

Get a video bell and you will have proof.

Then contact the police with the proof that you are being harrassed.