I need my awful husband to agree to sell the house

[bluehoney3]

I am living with my husband, but our marriage is over and has been for a long time. He is a bully, controlling and verbally abusive towards me. This continues and I can't stop it. All we do is argue and all he does is shout at me.

We own a house together (with a mortgage) and we are currently both living in it. I have nowhere to go and he refuses to leave or sell. He has lots of excuses, including we will pay a penalty to end the fixed mortgage early, that the house needs to be decorated before selling, etc etc.

I am slowly losing my mind. Living with him is hell on Earth. But I can't afford to move out and rent, especially while I'm liable to pay half the mortgage too. I stay in my room and go for walks whenever I can to avoid him.

If we sold i estimate we would get around £90k each if split 50:50s But he believes he should get more than that as he's paid in slightly more. So he would create all sorts of issues if he ever agrees to sell in the first place.

What do I do? I can see me lying huge solicitor fees to force this and still getting nowhere.

*paying not lying.

If you are an low earner you can get free advice. You can also force a sale, which is expensive and needs a court ruling.

That maybe your answer -

I’m thinking a divorce should come first then the house would have to be sold to settle that.

Carry on with divorce. The house will likely be sold as part of it

You cannot go on like this as your abusive husband will continue to destroy you from the inside out.

Seek legal advice from a Solicitor asap re all aspects of divorce including the house.

Divorce him, get some advice and get out of that man’s hole he’s keeping you in. Nobody deserves to live like this and don’t let him dull your shine.

See a solicitor asap.

Get this bucket out of your life.

I dont know if this is useful information but I just paid to get out of my fix today. It was dead easy. It was only about £780 because of how close i was to the end of the fixed rate.
I phoned and they phoned me back and I signed stuff by Adobe sign thingy.

So that is one excuse eliminated.

Im not sure if you even need to do that if you can port it to a new place you buy. Possibly if you're not buying together but you're both on the existing mortgage.

Definitely do general advice though

Ring the CLA helpline, they will do an assessment to see if you're entitled to any legal aid and if so refer you to a solicitor.

www.gov.uk/civil-legal-advice

Argh I meant to say 'get legal advice'

Crack on with divorcing him while you still live there. Surely that will force the sale?

Go out and start living your life. If you work try to save some money. Don't just hide in your room. And divorce. And research free legal advice. He cant force you to keep living like this but you're going to have to be proactive and crack on..not wait for him or try to persuade him.

Just stop paying your share of the mortgage. Move out and rent a place. Initiate divorce proceedings. He can either pay the whole mortgage himself or work with the lender to have a mortgage holiday while he puts the house on the market. Even if he pays the whole mortgage himself, you can still force the sale and get your share. You don’t need him to agree.