Husband forgiving affairs

[Pipsickl]

This is just out of curiosity. I am not having an affair etc.

I read often on mumsnet about husbands cheating, whether to stay or go, and in some cases women forgiving their husband and carrying on the relationship. Some people can get over it, in others it seems to have irreparably damaged the relationship.

I was wondering if anyone had experienced the other way round? That they cheated and their husband forgave them, and what impact that had on their relationship?

Bumb because I’d like to know too out of interest.

My mum had an affair and kicked my dad out, he was willing to forgive it and would have stayed with her.

My friends wife first cheated 6 months after they married, it was at a party and everyone saw. He forgave her. Not long after they had a baby she did it again. Made him think it was his fault and he forgave her. Did it twice more and she eventually kicked him out. He’d have stayed but he’s much happier now.

My wife had an affair.
I found out and was totally devastated. I asked her about it and she thankfully admitted it immediately, didn’t hide or try to bullshit me etc.
We have stayed together but have both been through huge pain and are still working our way through it.
I understand why the affair started and it place that her head was in for her to start it. I can accept that situation ... the bit I struggle with is how/why she carried on as long as she did. Had I not found out I don’t know how much longer it would have carried on.
I don’t know if forgive is the right word... Don’t know what the right word is ... I live with it and accept it happened but it still makes me fucking angry.

More work to be done on that one.

My sil had an affair. He forgave her they went on to have another couple of kids and seem happy enough 10 years on. We all pretend it didn't happen so I don't know the ins and outs of how it really effected their relationship.