Is it wrong to have a crush on....

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....my child's primary school teacher?!

It's ridiculous actually......this huge crush has come out of nowhere and I can't stop thinking about him 😳.
Now I feel as though I'm blushing when he speaks to me - I'm in my 40's for gods sake (and he is much younger 😬)!

It's likely because I've just split with my H and this teacher has been so supportive to my daughter, my emotions are everywhere at the moment. But the distraction is very welcome if nothing else!

Possibly!! He might send you a friend request

Wi would write his number down & put it somewhere safe if I felt the need to delete it off my phone.

I have never wanted sex so much in my life as I do lately, typically it's when my H and I have separated.
I'm so scared that it's the start of the menopause and now I'll be a lonely old woman craving sex for years!!!
Think I probably need this ridiculous crush to cheer me up at the moment, our minds play games with us I guess.

Re Facebook....I would bloody love him to send me a friend request 🤣

Grow up seriously, you sound desperate and ridiculous. Teachers don't give out their private numbers either.

Wow! I am not a liar, but thanks for the input!

There’s a name for crushes like this, I can’t remember but the same happens with doctors, consultants etc. I had a crush on my son’s consultant, I only saw him a few times but we had good banter and I thought at the time he was quite handsome.

I'll have to look it up! For now I will stand at the back of the school yard and hope it fades - fast!!

@Mindymomo Do you mean transference? I thought that's only between patient and therapist.

I think if OP was the type to admire men in positions of authority she would have had crushes like this before.

OP do you think you would have still found him attractive if you didn't meet him through school and if he wasn't your child's teacher?

And you don't have to be lonely... get on Tinder if you want casual sex?

I think he will see you in his friend's suggestions but that may be because he was in your phone contacts which FB regulary syncs unless you've asked it not to do so.

@DidiSharma it's not like me at all to develop crushes, never mind on men in authority! I work with lots of doctors and have never been attracted to any of them!

I am so nervous about the possibility of dating, I find the idea of meeting and potentially having sex with a stranger quite terrifying.

I do genuinely find this teacher attractive, but I think I'm more drawn to how lovely he is. As someone else mentioned on the thread that is what teachers do though.

Lol OP is so cute 🤣 just have your little giggles and daydreams and keep it moving, I agree with other posters about trying to start dating (other people ofc)

What the fuck is wrong with you? That was unnecessarily mean. Just because you're dead inside doesn't mean the rest of us don't get to have fun

🤣 thank you! I think it'll be a long time before I'm confident enough to actively put myself out there for dating 😞. My little daydreams will have to suffice for now!

Not wrong but annoying 😁 I can empathise though OP - I developed a bit of a crush on my kids’ headteacher after my divorce and even more annoyingly they were both single too and only a year older than me.

But yeah… kids’ headteacher. So even if the feeling was mutual (which I’ve no idea if it is/was) ain’t going to happen.😂

Pick me pick me pick me lol...oh well 😂😂😂

You know you will appear don’t you…

Ten years younger is not a stupid gap.
The teacher thing is more of a problem, but still. Is there any reason why you couldn’t date him if you both liked each other ? Why not ?

How on Earth would you ask them out? It's not like you can pop the question in the playground during pick-up. And using the phone number might seem innappropriate.

I don't know, I just think even if a teacher was inclined to risk dating a parent if they could, the professional parameters surrounding everything would probably force them to say "no".

I just can't see a 31 year old man being attracted to 41 year old woman? I would love to think it's a possibility 🤣.

As @TossCointoYerWitcher said though, how on earth would I approach him?! I don't have any intention to whatsoever - it is impossible to do without looking a complete idiot. He won't be teaching DD again after July but will still be in same school.

I think it’s a very deep evolutionary instinct to feel attracted to men who are kind to our dc. The fact that’s he’s independently attractive and you’re newly single is adding to it. And of course there’s nothing as compelling as forbidden fruit.

I’ve had a lot of interaction with teachers over the years regarding ds who has struggled through school. I’ve felt stirrings for all the male teachers who genuinely liked and helped him, regardless of what they looked like or any other characteristics.

Get out and meet other men - it will help dilute the effects. Even just a normal conversation with the butcher/postman about the weather will help.

There's no way the personal number was given out.

I don't know why people think this is so unbelievable? He rang my mobile off his and told me to keep the number in case any other issues.....? surely that's not strange considering he was WFH!

Got to apologise to OP..I posted on the wrong thread in a haze of guinness...hope you can accept my apologies 🤐

It is seriously weird that he gave you his number. We all wfh and were warned right from the start that if using personal phones we must withhold the number. If he forgot, he should have asked you to delete it, not encouraged you to use it.

I met my DH when I was 31 and he was 22. So that colours my view !
Happy together still, 25 years later.