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dunnowot2think · 12/01/2008 02:27

where to start???? dp and i have been together now 2 yrs have a wonderful ds 15 weeks and i have a wonderful ds from previous relationship. tonight dp phones me from owrk and says he will be home early as the other guy is basically taking a few hours out of work to go and see his g'f while his wife is at home with the kids nasty barsteward eh!!!!

Anyways while this twat is outta work dp phones me n chats once or twice then phones me, keeps me on phone for ages until other phone in office rings then makes a point of talking to this other guy while i on phone and saying oh yeah ok, phone back on the work phone cos i am losing signal on mobile" (everytime i call mobile it is off) so then conversation starts with me...."Oh typical you hear this shit his bike has broken down" office phone rings....."yeah where are you? ok well it'll take me 20 mins to get to you ok, well remind me where you are again"....and so on think you get picture. so then he comes back to phone and says oh his bike has broken down he wants me to go and get him i replied "oh right planned call was that" and hung up cos i hate feeling like i have been made a fool of. nest thing dp is on phone calling me a scabby cnut telling me he doesn't love me and for me to get out of his home and life...... this was at 1.15 and i am skint with 2 kids. he then phones my 62 yr old mums home, my bro answers and he calls my bro a cnut.....Then says he is not picking this guy up...now phones me to say he is...i feellike he is fucking with me big time and i am starting to feel shit about myself.

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dunnowot2think · 12/01/2008 02:31

I only asked a bloody question......... i guess i was looking for some reassurance earlier when he was telling all about what this guy was going to do this evening and i said " y'no telling most women this makes em think that the person telling finds it good that the unfaithful one won't be found out and makes them suspicious" I had hell since then...... was only wanting him to tell me he would never do that to me.

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WildCats · 12/01/2008 02:33

tell him to piss off and lock the door. seriously though, if that is the route he wants to go down then fight for the house because it is classed as both of yours.

un married couples now have the same thingys (sorry forgot the word) as married couples.

id go to bed, get up in morning and tell him that YOU want HIM out of YOUR house.

sorry i know that maybe not good advice but i absolutely deteste men who play mind games!!!

hope someone comes along soon who can offer some good advice for you

dunnowot2think · 12/01/2008 02:37

wild...can't i am not on tenancy as i don't work i can't go on it...landlords rules, well i can but not as a joint tenant.

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dunnowot2think · 12/01/2008 02:38

anyway gettin cover as he does't want me in his bed tonight when he gets home so have ds2 in living room with me. need to get some sleep xxx

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mumzyof2 · 12/01/2008 02:40

Has he been drinking? Or has he been like this before with you? It sounds like an awful situation to be in, and my only advice would be to lock the doors, and let him sleep it off in the car or whatever. You dont want him coming in and arguing with you. However, my relationship is in tatters, so any advice from me should probably be ignored!

WildCats · 12/01/2008 02:41

dont sleep on the sofa just because he said so!!!

can i ask something? is he violent towards you? if he isnt go get yourself in bed, its more than likely that he will kip on the sofa. then in the morning, get up before him and throw a jug of ice cold water on him

mumzyof2 · 12/01/2008 02:43

No dont sleep on the bloody sofa! If hes as angry as he sounds, Id just lock himout until the morning. It might make him angrier tomorrow, but he might think twice before doing it again. Dont let him think he can walk all over you.

dunnowot2think · 12/01/2008 03:30

i have forms here for council and am currently filling them in, best for me n kids to go before another baby grows up around aggro.

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WildCats · 12/01/2008 11:19

dunnowot2think- how did it go last night. i hope everything went ok n he just went stright to sleep x

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