Has anybody ever left their boyfriend/husband, because it was for the best, even though you were still deeply in love with them?

[mumzyof2]

Just what the title says I suppose. I just wanted to know if anyone had ever left somebody they still truly loved, because it was for the best ie; abusive, drugs, or just not getting on. And is it something that people actually do? Or just something that you hear about? Does the hurt ever go?

tbh i have considered it with dp. i love him with all my heart but sometimes i think that that we would be better off apart. ive tried to go so many times before but deep down i do love him more than anything and know that i would regret it for the rest of my life.

sorry, i know that hasnt been much help and hopefully someone will be along soon who can offer some advice etc

I have

I fell in love with someone that didn't tell me they were married. I didn't find out for 6 months. He stayed over every weekend and I saw him 4/5 times a week

I ended it immediatly but over a month he convinced me to get back together. He came back with promises of leaving the other woman

I sort of got carried away with it an went with it but over a week or so, I woke up to fact that he was all talk and must be heartless to walk away from his long term partner and would prob do the same to me. I also couldn't face being the person that broke up a family

So I ended it. Hurt like hell, took a lot of will power not to contact him and to ignore his efforts. 4 years on, I still think of him but for my peace of mind, I had to walk away. He was willing to hurt his family, lie to me, so there wasn't going to be a future

I still get what if thoughts but I know I did the right thing

I don't know whether I was still "deeply in love" but I still loved him and was very emotionally attached to him. It was hard to find anyone who could fill his place and it took me several years. I think the hurt really only went away when I met DH.

I left because I knew we weren't right for each other and it was the right decision. But it was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

Was also made doubly hard because he replaced me instantly with my closest friend.

I split with my first love following a stupid argument. I was still very much in love with him, but recognised that after 7 years he was not the person I wanted or needed him to be. I then went about making the life that I wanted which included commitment and financial stability.

It was not until I fell in love again that I truly moved on.

I managed to maintain a "friendship" with my ex eventually and we both recognise that whilst we had a deep love, it wasn't quite enough for either of us.

Incidentally, he married a lovely woman last year and my dp and I attended. He is really happy and so am I even though deep in my heart I still love him just not enough to be with him.

Pages - I am sorry to hear your story. Out of curiosity what happened with your "closest" friend & did their relationship last?

My bf is deeply in love with her ex partner.
he wouldn't committ to her. I just can't work him out. Neither can any of her friends or family. She thinks that what they had was very special. I too thought they had so much going for them.
She lives in Devon and he is from Stoke. He wouldn't move down or let her and her ds, move in, keep promising, for nearly 5 years.
She is in a real state. Still. She just can't accept it. She split from him in August.
I can only assume that he doesn't really love her. But I couldn't say that to her.

Wonderwoman, thanks, it was really tough for me, and no-one really understood and supported me during that time. Mutual friends (and my own family I hasten to add) seemed to be of the attitude "Well you don't want him, why shouldnt she have him?" which was very hurtful.

Also, she fell pregnant within a year and I had to watch them both playing happy families. I couldn't help at times but think "Why did I leave? I could have had all that". But I still knew deep down that I had made the right decision.

In the end I left my home town and moved to London and she and he split a few years later. I saw her a few years back for the first time since I left town and she was extremely bitter towards him, he went on to have a family with someone else and never bothers with her child. She was bubbling over with resentment.