NC for this.
I've been divorced for a few years and due to the carnage that was our divorce and an extremely bonkers and vindictive OW, I decided to cut off all of my ex husband's family (as is generally the norm). It was just easier this way as hearing about new babies and weddings was just too painful.
Roll on 4 years and I've bumped into my ex MIL recently on two occasions whilst out shopping. We had long chats and of course she still engages with my kids etc and is a good grandmother. Now the pain has subsided, I just feel deeply sad that other relationships from a long marriage died purely because my husband I divorced.
Just wondered if others felt this sadness?
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The sadness of losing family members after a divorce. Can anyone relate?
Purplepenguin2022 · 18/05/2022 09:20
Peach2021 · 18/05/2022 09:41
Same here OP, but for a different reason - my ex was abusive but his family don't believe it and have cut ME off. It makes me very sad, for me and the DC, but until they acknowledge his behaviour as the reason for our divorce - and I realise they may never do that - they are unlikely to want to have anything to do with us, despite previous good relationships, or so I thought.
Peach2021 · 18/05/2022 10:09
@Intrigueddotcom you are right of course, but I have some idea of the level of lying XH has been doing, so I sort of understand how they have been taken in. Either way it is very hard to take and you are right, I can't see how we can ever get back from this, especially as MIL has been abusive to me in her own right since the break-up.
What makes me sad is that we were a small family to start with, and now the DC have even less access to their wider family - cousins etc (I used to organise it all, and I very much doubt XH will bother).
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HarryBlackberry1 · 18/05/2022 12:25
I absolutely get this. I try not to think about it as it makes me very sad.
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