just a moan really. Dp complains I never initiate sex but whenever I do he says no!

[fedup1981]

It drives me mad. It takes courage on my part to initiate sex, and he says a flat out "No, not in the mood"

yet when he suggests we do it I almost always say yes unless I'm not well or something.

I know he does masturbate a few times a week and I have no problem with that, but sometimes he seems all wanked out iyswim! Like he'll come up and grope me early in the day when I'm busy cooking or something, but at night when I've had a shower and put the baby to bed, he's suddenly not in the mood, which makes me think he's been watching porn while I've been showering.

I wouldn't mind waiting for him and never initiating sex but he moans that I don't, then simply WILL NOT believe me when I say he always say no.

Am I doing something wrong, or is he just a spoilt git?

Spoilt git.

Sorry that's him not you

Plus, I have to admit that it's bad on my part but when he refuses me I get all annoyed (especially as I've exfoliated/shaved/moisturised and got my courage up to ask) I feel really rejected and end up having a go at him. It's not that I want to pressure him into sex but it's frustrating.

fedup my dp is exactly like this, although he doesnt ever grope me.

he complained a while ago that i never initiate sex, so i built up all my confidence to do it and he knocked me back. this has been going on a while now but, like you, when he wants it i almost always say yes. not that he does either

i also feel really rejected and frustrated which gets me wound up, i have a go at him then it turns into a row

just wanted to let you know you arent alone

My DH is like this too. I think that some men feel it's a way to hold power over us.