Feeling a bit disappointed and fed up with my partner’s attitude. I’m pregnant and he’s been a source of misery throughout. He’s never been someone who is particularly enthusiastic or fun loving but this has been on a new level.
- Before the scan he was late leaving so we had to rush. He was in a mood and annoyed I had text to ask what time he would be back as he thought a call would have been better.
- at the first scan he was in and out of the room taking work calls
- rushed the appointment so much so that I hurried off the bed after having blood taken and forgot my phone, had to go back and the nurse gave me a letter which she’d ‘not had chance to give me earlier.’
- we were asked if we wanted photos, immediately he jumped in and said won’t they be saved on the system so we could get them another time - nurse looked confused
- when she gave us the paperwork afterwards she had included a photo and just looked at me and said don’t worry about paying for it (clearly thinking partner was funny about cost…we have more than enough money to have bought a photo).
- we had to book in for another appointment and at the desk I tried to discuss with him which date was best and he just said take whichever they’ve given. He was hovering about around 5 steps ahead the entire time, desperate to leave to go back to work.
- I was embarrassed he was trying to rush things along - he even knocked on a staff door at one point to ask why there was a delay…we had only been waiting 15 minutes by then.
- after the appointment I was feeling extremely worried as we had been asked to come back in a week for a particular reason and something needed a follow up check, I wanted to discuss with him and he was so cold, almost angry I was upset, very inpatient and dismissive.
- as we left the car park I said I really needed something to eat as I’d missed lunch to go to the appointment in work time, it was now 5:30. He said he wanted to drive the hour back immediately as he wanted to get back into work. He did eventually stop when I said I had to get out of the car and would get a taxi back if needs be because I was feeling so unwell having not eaten.
- he did stop with me at that point, and was moody and silent while I ate. He did discuss the scan and my worry in more detail but it honestly felt like he was angry about the whole thing, me being upset, needing to eat etc. I was also really shaken by his behaviour throughout the appointments.
we saw my family recently after weeks of me saying I wanted to spend more time with them. The day was nice but he constantly references that he ‘did what I wanted the other week and came with me to see family.’ It makes me feel so shit that he uses these things to express how he’s ‘done something for me’ rather than just participated in the relationship.
when the second scan date came around it turned out he had forgotten. Initially said he couldn’t change work and he’d got the days wrong. I was very upset and worried about the next scan which he knew. He managed to book time off in the end but it was horrible and stressful and I didn’t feel supported by him at all.
obviousky these are the bad points…he does cook and clean and ultimately shows up. But i dont think he has any idea what I need by way of support in an emotional sense. I’ve never done this before and his moods and shitty time keeping and inability to recognise I need things organised and for him to be. Just wanted to let it out really as I feel quite alone.