I've changed my user name so as not to be outing but just had to post and hopefully get some impartial advice. I have been with my H 14 years, married for 10. I have a 17 year old DS from my first marriage and H has 2 boys in their 20's.
Looking back H has always had a more negative outlook on life but over time it has become more and more apparent. Nothing is ever good enough, he is short tempered and hard work to live with at times.
He has retired from his career and now works part time. I also work part time due to a chronic heath condition and feel quite heavily reliant on H financially. There are many issues in our marriage that are causing me to write this but I will try and keep them as brief as possible.
If I do any housework ie hoovering, when he gets in from work he will hoover again. This is before he takes his coat off and despite me telling him it has been done. Similarly, he is constantly wiping the tiniest marks off the walls, doesn't like me cooking or baking as he doesn't like the kitchen getting messed up and would rather we just had microwave meals to keep everywhere tidy.
We haven't been intimate for 2.5 years now and before then it wasn't very often. When I bring up the issue he doesn't really give me a straight answer and nothing changes. I now feel that with so much time passing by it will never get to a point where we are back on track in this area.
Perhaps my biggest issue is how he picks at my son. When he was younger it was over things like him bouncing on the bed (too much noise) whereas now he will complain if my DS has gone to the toilet too many times! H has never really taken on the role of step father, I have pretty much felt like a single parent and as a result my DS and I are very close.
I have always been such a positive and fun person but I now feel that the life is being sucked out of me and find the whole situation so tiring.
I really don't know what the future holds but surely there has to be more to life than this? Has anyone experienced similar or has any advice? Sorry for such a long post .