How to accept and move on??

[Gryuh]

hello, my son's mom left me a year and a half ago, with my son, i had to accept that her mom helps me with my son as i work and all that, as any of my family member could move to where i live and help me out, so its been alot of time but i still get affected by her, for example, 5 days ago i received a photo and seems like she has a new partner and that hurted alot, i been focusing on me, hitting the gym every day since she left, meditating, eating super healthly, reading, writing, all the thing i found in internet for personal grow, but i still get affected, the problem is that im trapped in the country we moved because my son cant travel just yet, so i had to stay here waiting for her to come back and take our son so i can move out of here and start a new life, but in the mean time, what else can i do? i seem to be trapped with no choice other than waiting for her to take our son, and then i can start thinking on me

i stayed here with my son as my native country is not in a good state, so i didnt want to go want and take my son to that disaster.

my son is only 4 yo, also i still live in the same apto we both rented, so the memories are around aswell

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sounds tough knowing she’s moved on but you’re doing so well investing time in yourself!
Did you two split up for any particular reason?
I know it’s easier said than done but over time it will all get easier. I’m sorry to say you may always have a soft spot for her being the mother of your child but the loving emotions will pass.
Have you considered seeking help? You are trying your hardest to move on and better yourself but if you regularly find yourself in a dark place then please speak to your doctor and see if you can get some therapy. Do you have many friends? People you can talk to and just get your feelings out there instead of keeping them bottled up.
Has she moved away ans settled? Any chance you could rent somewhere else so you can have a fresh start? Either that or try decorate to make changes in your home.

hello, no im pretty lonely here, as im an introvert i dont like to go out much, and since i know i wont stay here forever, i just try to avoid sentimental relationships, i have talked with some psychologists, but it just seems to not work out, his mom will come and take him with her in 2 months, so all i have to do is wait, but we gonna meet again after almost 2 years to talk about our son futures and all that, i try to make it as friendly as possible but im scared on how im gonna react after i see her. this is why im triying so hard to move on, i want to meet with her, felling nothing for her as i really dont want to get back with her because all the thing she did, but i cant help felling like this

we split, because she wanted something else, she wanted big friend groups, travel alot, have a perfect instagram life, and as i said im an introvert these type of thing dont go with me, so she started traveling by herself leaving me and my son alot of times, so the relationship got cooler and cooler

what hurt the most is contantly thinking about her with a new partner, we were together for 11 years so idk if this is the reason its taking so long for me to move on, or its the thing that i see everyday that reminds me of her, all i want is move on and stop overthinking

i been with 2 women in the past 3 months, but now im avoiding them as i think im still not ready for this, as everytime i been with those women i felt even more empty inside

You knew what she was like before you decide to enter into a serious relationship and have a child together. Therefore, you had enough knowledge about her to make an informed decision as to whether pursuing a serious relationship with this woman would be right for you, interns of the future you want an intimate partner.
Sometimes you can't control who you're attracted to but you have a responsibility to make sensible decisions, instead of thinking the person will change with time or trying to convert them to what you desire.
You have to accept you're both not compatible which lead to the end of the relationship and then peacefully move on!!!
She has moved on and so should you.
Get over it and stop using your "present" to mourn the "past", time still goes on!...you can paint a much happier future when you start to focus on more positive things happening in your life.

the problem is she wasent like this at all, once she could travel to USA she changed dramatically, it was 4 years ago when it all started, we lasted 11 years, believe me i wouldnt be with someone unhappy for 11 years! but thanks for the advice!