I need help with communication

[Expectalot]

I've been single for quite a while. Every time I meet someone I mess it up. I've taken a couple of years off & just started dating again. My problem is around communication. I never know how much is too much.....or too little. A couple of years ago a guy I was dating said he found me 'suffocating'. I don't know where I go wrong. Too much & I scare them off, too little & they think I'm not interested. Please help

I would say it all depends if you are dating more of an introvert, more of an extrovert, or someone who is a 50/50 type.

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I'd say I'm an introvert & my dates are a mix of both. I'm early 50s & have had a few awful relationships so when I do meet someone I like I just want to find out more about them but I can see that for some people it comes across as too much too soon

Who do you think decides how much you should communicate? Who makes the rules about what's right and wrong?

I have no idea! That's why I'm asking for help. I was married for a lot of years & daring before that was totally different. There was no mobile phones or text messaging. I just don't seem to get it right

You decide. You're in charge. This is your show. You direct. You are the cast, the music, the set. You are the main character. You are your hero, your protagonist.
If they don't like your show, they don't have to watch, and it sounds like a few have decided not to. But quite a lot of people don't like 'Friends': do you think they should have changed it? Quite a lot of people don't like Shakespeare: should he have had a serious look at himself to see where he was going wrong?
No.
You put yourself out there, and you meet lots of people. Those who like you will get close to you, others, not so much. If you're a bit unusual, you'll get more people who aren't interested, but those who like you will really like you, because you're rare.
But don't let rejection make you think you're doing something wrong. There's plenty of people who don't understand the attraction of any given Hollywood heart throb. There are people who dumped Halle Berry and Brad Pitt. Being rejected isn't a comment on what's wrong with you.

I like that. Thank you!