“In” love with dh or in love with him

[VJasper86]

I started counselling last week to work through some issues that are currently making me unsure in my marriage.
Session was great but she asked me to go away and think if I am “in” love with dh.
I genuinely don5 know how I’d know, what would you say are the signs of being “in” love with a partner you have been with over a decade and who was your first partner (therefore no comparisons)

@AnneLovesGilbert thanks for that. You are right, probably if I am questioning it then maybe that forms part of my answer.
Hopefully the counselling will enable me to work through some personal issues and I'll either be able to fall back "in" love with him, or we will have to see what other choices are for the best.