How honest to be about lack of experience and how early on?

[morshmollow]

The guy I'm seeing has mentioned me coming to his over the Jubilee bank holiday. We've had three dates and I like him, but I don't know if I'm ready for staying over or sex or anything. I've only kissed one person before him and it was a very long time ago (I'm 28 now).

I don't want to lie about anything, but also admitting that I've absolutely no experience sexually at all seems really daunting. I'm so embarrassed by it.

If he's a good guy, and the right guy, he won't be too bothered by it.

I don't think it needs to be a full on conversation but just tell him if you're not ready. If he likes you, I don't think it should be an issue considering it has only been a few dates.

Similarly, you can't automatically assume he'll try to pressure you into all that if you go round. Or just go round and go home at night.

I don't know the guy and you haven't mentioned anything about what he's like as a person so it's hard for any of us to really say what his intentions are , but just set your boundaries and don't be afraid to say no.

I was going to say the same thing as PP, if you're not ready just say that. You may find as you see him more that you feel more comfortable having a conversation about it. I personally would hold off having a big conversation about it after just 3 dates though.

Your post mentions you've kissed one person before but isn't clear how far you've gone with this guy yet, but if its more than just a chaste kiss then it's possible staying over could build your confidence (as long as sex is clearly marked off the table beforehand and you trust him to respect that). Being physically close to someone without that pressure of sex could bring you closer. But go at your own pace !

What is it with men thinking that after three dates that you should sleep with them. Just tell him it's far to early to be thinking about it. The expectations now are totally unreasonable, what's happened to enjoying taking it slowly & gradually building towards intimacy.